To wonder if this 'art' is appropriate?

[Thistledew]

A friend has several large black and white photos on the walls of her house that depict naked women in various BDSM scenes.

Fair enough, if that's what floats her boat then it is none of my business what she has in her own home.

Except - she is now in a relationship with a guy who has three young children aged between 2 and 11, and as he is planning to move in with my friend, the children will be visiting.

Is it inappropriate for her to continue to have the picture on her wall if it going to be a house that young children visit and spend the night in?

Possibly. Depends how sexualised the images are. I wouldn't do it.

If it's a woman in a gimp mask then not too different from cat woman and probably explainable.

But half naked with a collar on and being dragged round the floor on a lead? Not so much

Has she asked your advice about it? It's not your concern really. I'm sure the DC Dad will say something about it.

It's none of your business

I'm not that close to her so have no intention of saying anything, but we have a mutual friend who is (or thought that they were) very close. This friend did query the appropriateness and friend with the pictures blew up at her.

They are very sexualised images involving a woman in chains in an uncomfortable/submissive pose.

I'm just interested to know whether other people would think them inappropriate to have around children or whether they would just say "meh. Art".

If I had images that looked like abusive images of women up in my house I'd get fired as a foster carer.

So if they look abusive then it doesn't sound like a good idea.

Plenty of art is unsuitable for children, due to its sexual or violent content.

Whether or not it's art is irrelevant- something doesn't be come suitable just because it's art. There's plenty of work by established artists which is most definitely not suitable for children.

I would have a word with her, it may not have crossed her mind.

My friend's father had a series of similar 'arty' images in the communal areas of their house when I was young. They made me very uncomfortable and made me think of him as a creep (his behaviour to me was above reproach) but I could never really get passed it.

Think your friend is making a big mistake.

yuk. even if they think it IS ok for their own kids, what about visiting friends from school etc. I would be livid if DC went to someones house and that sort of thing was on display. In their own private bedroom maybe, but thats all.

I have to say that the images make me feel uncomfortable and I try to avoid looking at them. But that is because they look abusive to me and I don't know if someone who didn't have knowledge of abuse would recognise that in them.

I wouldn't feel comfortable with it.