Neighbours are having a party this Sat to celebrate a significant anniversary. Local hired room with buffet and bar type of affair. They invited us about 3 months ago. DH sees them more often than me so I put it on the calendar and asked him to RSVP that we would go.
Since then we have turned down a couple of other events, including one (ticketed) one that I would have really liked to have gone to that has now sold out.
Bumped into neighbour in Asda yesterday, congratulated her on the anniversary and asked if she was looking forward to the party and everything ready. Yes she says, all sorted with numbers etc, sorry you aren't able to come. Bit stunned, so much so I didn't reply.
Got home, asked DH if he had spoken to neighbour after they invited us? No he says, I forgot, but we can still go to the party they won't mind. Can't get through to him that if they have catered for certain numbers we can't just rock up with a present! He just doesn't get the ettiquette involved at all.
To be fair, they probably wouldn't mind if we turned up but it might mess up their numbers. I can't decide whether to go round later and laugh about DH being a moron and ask if we can we still come, or would that be putting her on the spot too much?
DH just doesn't get why it's an issue, aaargh!