To think it's impossible to cinch in your judgey pants?

[mangoespadrille]

Yes, a TAAT. I hate being judgemental, but I do it all the time. Is there anything you can do to stop being so judgy? Where does it come from? Is it just a natural part of any society?

*jusges self for spelling judgy/judgey.

cinch?

Do you mean unhoik?

*judges. JUDGES!

Quite possibly.

If you cinched them, surely they would be more judgey, not less.

Perhaps... but you can still keep your 'bum cheeks' tightly shut so nobody's any the wiser...

I think judgey pants are like elasticated trousers. The older you get the more comfy they feel.

I hate being told not to be judgemental. We are human beings with thoughts and opinions. Making a judgement should not necessarily be seen as a negative thing. Its judgement without empathy which is a problem.

With deference being a thing of the past, we all naturally assume that we are the arbiters of all things right and good.

And, sometimes, not content to simply think it, we also march up to other people and lecture them about it too. Such lectures aren't always wrong. But, there are probably too many of them.

Cinching is for young uns.
Hoiking is for those who Know Best.

I GIRD in my pants in the hope that I won't judge.......but it still doesn't work because I'm only human and I have never met anyone who doesn't judge at all. Tis not possible I tell you.

Some lovely verbs. Maybe I need to just accept my gigantic judgy pants?

YANBU.

This is a forum. We're voicing our opinions. We're not going up to that person in real life and shouting, "OMFG, you're actually feeding your kid a Fruit Shoot?!!!!" DS loves Fruit Shoots FYI

But if something is not your thing, then why can you not voice it on a public forum which was set up for discussion and opinion?

MN shared a link on FB today, quoting someone who hates square-ended fake nails. First comment under the link was someone complaining about judging others and as women we should not be judging one another etc etc. My first thought was FFS, someone is allowed to say they don't like fake nails!

Everyone judges, it's how you voice, or rather not voice, that judgement. I'm allowed to inwardly see someone and not like what they're wearing. Doesn't mean it's okay to go up to their face and tell them.

Anyone who says they are not judgemental is a liar. Everyone judges - it's part of human nature. All we can really do is ask ourselves if we are being fair and judge in our heads and not out loud.

Personally I think gossiping is a worse trait than being judgy.

Maybe (only if you want to be less judgy, if you are happy then carry on) try reflecting on why you feel judgy about something? I'm very judgy, and this helps me.

I'm not convinced by the natural argument. You could justify all sorts of things that way, it's a little dodgy.

I guess gossiping was what people did before Internet forums were available to vent your spleen, so I guess people who still gossip IRL are being unreasonable?

It's perfectly normal to judge. Everyone does. When people say they never judge MN I think they are liars.

Surely not being able to say you don't like squared off fake nails for fear of being called judgemental means none of us are allowed an opinion? I hate them. We all have preferences, likes, dislikes, things we'd never wear, things we'd never do. It's human nature. I don't want to be a robot and like everyone else.

Everybody does judge, that's life but not everybody spouts off about every thought that crosses their mind.

Some things really bother me very much, there are thousands of things that don't and I don't pass comment on them because I just don't care. I suspect a lot of people are like that really, just cracking on.

Ours is not to reason why, and the higher ups... You be the judge, is actually a fairly recent phenomenon.