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To want an invisibility cloak to avoid my neighbour?

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TheEggityOddity · 29/04/2015 13:45

I am usually sociable but she manages a nasty interaction every bloody day. We live in apartments so no avoiding it as she is on the first floor and always lingers outside the front door.

She is in her 80s and scares my toddler as she has a a gruff smokers voice and is always pointing her finger in his face when talking to him. He tries to be friendly but at three and after nursery he is not always in the mood for a protracted chat in his second language to an elderly lady. He doesn't understand everything she says but her tone is always very disciplinarian with him. She loves to tell him off about nothing if he isn't immediately friendly to her or if he pulls me away as he wants to go home. I know she just wants to talk to someone as she seems to have no relations but I so wish I could avoid her! So different to our next door neighbour who smiles, pats his head and gives chocolate at every opportunity.

Today she told me/him off as he had a tshirt on on the way to school and no coat. It was warm enough and we live next door to school. I really feel like saying "none of your business". But I would prefer no interaction at all!

She is a bully but at 80 odd it is hard to be anything other than polite Sad.

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DoJo · 29/04/2015 14:33

Could you maybe speak to her (without your toddler present) and explain to her that you would like a more friendly neighbourly relationship, but that it is hard when she is so negative about your son? And that if she is not prepared to be kinder to him then you will not be acknowledging her any more as her tone upsets him? She may be longing for interaction and going about it the wrong way, she may just be a miserable person, but if you give her the chance to be the former and she continues to be the latter then I think you'd be justified in ignoring her completely.

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