To cancel daughters flight tomorrow?

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pinkgirl1 · 28/04/2015 22:58

My 8 year old daughter is going a short holiday with her father for 4 days,she has never been away from me and I thought it would give her and her father quality time together.
Now she is refusing to sleep,telling me she is scared of the plane crashing and going to heaven without me! She is being unusually tearful and emotional..
I am trying not to over react but on the other hand I will not relax at all now until both are home again in 3 days...should I just cancel it and let my husband go visit his family alone?

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eurochick · 28/04/2015 23:00

No. Reassure your daughter and wave her off with a smile. It is the best thing for her.

123rd · 28/04/2015 23:00

Bit how will she learn that it probably won't happen? Surely if it's a short flight with her dad he would be able to console/reason with her

balia · 28/04/2015 23:03

Would you cancel a holiday you'd booked if she was tearful about the plane crashing?

(I might sound unsympathetic but I have been there - DD went off to visit her Dad when she was exactly the same age, and had to fly on her own. it feels like hell but it is the right thing to do.)

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 28/04/2015 23:04

I wouldn't cancel it as that will legitimise her fears. I think the focus on the plane is probably her trying to process her separation anxiety about going away without you. My DC go away with DH every year and the day or two before can be a bit tense because we are all trying to deal with the idea of being apart.
Tell her you will miss her but you are proud that she is grown up and brave enough to go without you and that you look forward to hearing about her trip when she gets back.

glittertits · 28/04/2015 23:04

Do not cancel the holiday. Under any circumstance!

glittertits · 28/04/2015 23:06

Ok, not ANY circumstance! What I meant was that she's with her dad, and will be fine. Sounds to me like she's worried about leaving you, not the actual plane.

Wave her off with a smile as if it was a school trip to the zoo. Poor more is probably just a little tired and overwhelmed.

PacificDogwood · 28/04/2015 23:07

YABU.

She will have a fab time, gain in confidence and, like you say, spend some time with her father.
Do not let her see how anxious you are - reassure her, otherwise you reinforce her fears.

123rd · 28/04/2015 23:08

Bit how will she learn that it probably won't happen? Surely if it's a short flight with her dad he would be able to console/reason with her

liveloveluggage · 28/04/2015 23:08

I agree and dont act anxious act like you are really pleased for her getting a treat. Maybe a few stories about what fun it is going on a plane and how you enjoy flying.

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pinkgirl1 · 28/04/2015 23:25

Yes,you are all right of course,she must be picking up on my worries...I will wave her off breezily as possible!

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Dieu · 29/04/2015 00:28

Wave her off and enjoy the break, for goodness sake. She will be back before you know it! You are doing the right thing in letting her go.

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