Someone slap me

[Babybabybaaaby]

I've been with my bf for 9 months and I have a nearly two year old from a previous relationship. I'm not working at the minute and I want to train to be a primary teacher.

Get your slap hand ready ...

I want a baby! I mean really badly obsessive broodiness I feel like I need one.

I can't shake it I've been feeling like this for about 3 months now.

Bf obviously doesn't want a baby yet we've spoken briefly at the beginning of our relationship.
I know I'm BU please help me shake this broodiness.

Can't I'm afraid - it's Mother Nature doing her thang!

I've felt that urge twice - and I have two daughters :) Not had it since and nor do I expect to.

You should probably wait a wee while to let your relationship grow and settle; why not get on with everything else that you want to do and reassess a few months down the line?

Hope that helps

Offer to take a friend's non sleeping, preferably colicky, baby for a long weekend to give them and their OH a break. That'll cure ye.

If it doesn't, have a huge slap.

Ugh Mother Nature

Thanks for the slaps it ridiculous idea isn't. I've never in my life felt like this!

I have felt like this since I was 14! I had our first at 17 and then had 4 more! We have been together for 16 years though, and married if that makes any difference.

I still get the urge. It's hormones, I'm sure because at least 2 days a month I get quite tearful about wanting another. DH just hugs me and says, "No you don't love." He's right, I don't. But my god, sometimes the broodiness is overwhelming!

Broodiness is never a good enough reason of course. Do you both want a baby? Can you afford a baby? Do you have time for a baby? Is your relationship strong enough for a baby? Is your baby ready for a sibling?

A virtual slap from me!

But babies are lovely. Warm, milky smelling bundles of loveliness.

How old are you? Think very clinically now, is your partner someone you can see being with long term & having a child with?
Develop your career first and your relationship and revisit having a child in a few years time.

Think about the sleepless nights, the endless nappy changes, lack of money & private time between the both of you........etc

get yourself signed up on a teacher training course pronto, once you are up to your eyeballs in lectures & essays there is no way you will want a baby. Anyway childcare is so expensive so it's best to wait until your dc1 is in school & you with paid mat leave provision in place before having dc2.

Ach...its yer hormones with all that new sex It'll pass!

Happy your last sentence isn't helping but thanks for the slap

Mrs. I need clinical thinking right now I'm half tempted to go and get implant tomorrow! Our relationship is good so far but I do worry as he's a bit younger than me. He's said from the beginning that he doesn't want kids yet. He's quite traditional and wants to get married first. he has t proposed just in general. I know what you mean about getting career sorted first but part of me thinks get the baby "out of the way" then start back at work rather than starting then having to take a break. I also would love a small age gap. I would of had Irish twins if I could of!

I could lend you my 'very active' 9 year old DD, she is enough to put anyone off, as a possibility of what the lovely snuggly newborns turn in to!

It wouldn't work though, yours would not possibly behave as she does!

The only sensible thing I have to add is that if the other potential parent is not on board with the idea, don't do it. It is hard enough to bring up a child with two parents who like the idea. Babies do not make relationships stronger!