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to ask: what makes you want to hoist up your judgey pants?

370 replies

butterflyballs · 28/04/2015 16:06

For me, it's the ignorance on vaccinations and the belief that measles is just a regular childhood disease. Makes me want to beat people with a large stick.

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flowerygirl · 28/04/2015 21:21

Aw Lambzig, can't believe the old bat spoke to you like that! Obviously she was mental, such a complete overreaction.

I give DD a babybel from the packet I haven't yet paid for when I'm in the supermarket. Keeps her quiet. I feed her before I go shopping shrunkenhead but she still kicks off. I'm actually thinking of other shoppers so they don't have to listen to her incessant whining.

avocadotoast · 28/04/2015 21:26

People who smoke/take drugs around babies and children.

People who scream and swear at their kids (not just swearing in passing, but swearing at the kids).

WorraLiberty · 28/04/2015 21:30

Kids drinking anything other than milk or water

Poor fuckers!

Being stuck with a choice of only 2 drinks until they're old enough to go out and spend their own money, is a pretty sure way to get them binge drinking fizzies and squash.

No wonder I see so many kids on the way to senior school, chugging back the Pepsi in the mornings.

As always, moderation is key.

geekymommy · 28/04/2015 21:32

People who treat animals as disposable.

People who hit their kids, or threaten to do so, in public. (I make an exception for situations with immediate danger like swatting a kid's hand away from a hot stove)

I have a very picky eating toddler, so I don't judge people on what they feed their kids. I used to, but I have learned. Some of them are just doing the best they can to get any calories into the kid. DH and I were picky kids but eat a varied diet now, so I'd believe there's a genetic link to pickiness in toddlers. I know it is NOT easy to get kids to eat something they really don't want to.

I judge parents who insist loudly on dressing their children 'appropriately' - and by that I mean too warmly.

Yes! I read once about someone who got chewed out for letting her baby go outside without a hat. In the summer. In Arizona, where summer temperatures regularly get up to 40 and higher. It has gotten up to 50 there in the summer.

People who bag up their dog poo and then hang it from bushes and tree branches

Who does this, and why?

midnight1983 · 28/04/2015 21:35

Why should a buggy only be parent facing?!

I judge parents who only do up the bottom of the 5 point harness on a pram/buggy - they could bloody well fall out!

LaLaLaaaa · 28/04/2015 21:57

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EatDessertFirst · 28/04/2015 22:06

Pregnant women smoking and anyone smoking around children.

People who are constantly late.

People who wear PJ's outside the house (on school run, shops).

Parents who give their children Haribo for breakfast.

People who won't vaccinate their children.

Parents who refuse to use car seats and/or squeeze too many children in the car.

ouryve · 28/04/2015 22:27

I judge parents who only do up the bottom of the 5 point harness on a pram/buggy - they could bloody well fall out!

We ended up doing this with DS2 because he just wriggled out of it, anyhow and is so bendy and squidgy and generally custard-like that he sometimes didn't get clean out and ended up with straps across his neck. We always had issues with carseats, too. It didn't matter how well they were done up or conformed to the 2 fingers rule. He's like custard and slithered straight out. He ended up in a SN seat with a chest clip (as he has ASD and LDs, anyhow).

ouryve · 28/04/2015 22:30

Obviously, there's a double helping of custard there, but that about sums him up.

Fugghetaboutit · 28/04/2015 22:33

Dummies are the height of chavviness?! Charming.

midnight1983 · 28/04/2015 22:42

Ouryve - fair enough. Straps round the bottom only is better than straps round the neck.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 28/04/2015 23:02

People who judge judgey people.

Songlark · 28/04/2015 23:09

Young lads who wear dirty grey jogging pants. Why don't they ever think black ones might look better. I suppose it would be too much to expect them to ever wear a nice pair of jeans.

avocadotoast · 28/04/2015 23:12

Songlark yy especially when they walk around with their hands shoved down the front. Blurgh.

Pyjamaschocolateandwine · 28/04/2015 23:13

milk or water only as daft as no sweets.

Kids learn absolutely nothing about self control.

As soon as they go out alone without their helecopter parents agonising over trivialities they gorge themselves on sweets and fizzy pop.

306235388 · 28/04/2015 23:20

People who move their boyfriend in with them and their kids and declare their undying love for them and then split up and repeat.

People who take everything too seriously. Your kid won't become a psychopath if they watch TV and have sugar sometimes!

People who let young kids play out unattended when they've no road sense / common sense.

People who drop their kids off late for school and / or never have them sorted with homework / gym kit / whatever and then spend most of their day sharing meaningless memes on Facebook about how much they love their kids.

Juice in baby bottle.

People who are intolerant (I see the irony) of other peoples perfectly reasonable parenting methods. Eg people who rave about how breastfeeding is only way / how formula is better / how their child doesn't tantrum because X or they aren't a fussy eater because Y.

Songlark · 28/04/2015 23:23

I know avocadotoast it's vile, they just look so dirty and smelly. I can't imagine any young girls being attracted to them.

lastlines · 28/04/2015 23:29

MC mothers who think it's boho to not look after their children properly.

Your rat's tail-haired, dried snot-faced, barefoot child is not having a carefree childhood. She's physically uncomfortable, whining and cutting her toe on a ringpull in the park. lf you don't wipe her nose, brush her hair, wash her feet, disinfect the cut, put a plaster on it and buy her shoes, I will. And I will glare at you sanctimoniously while you bray into your mobile for hours while your children cry.

Patsyandeddie · 29/04/2015 00:47

The desire to strangle anybody who fucking mentions them! I assume you're all fairly well educated, who invented that ridiculous tag!

Feminine · 29/04/2015 06:26

Totally agree with last
I have no idea why parenting like that even exists?
It is very popular round 'my way' too.

Miltonmaid · 29/04/2015 06:42

Smoking around children. I saw a man yesterday with a small child sitting on his shoulders, he was smoking and it was blowing up into the little girl's face.

Sirzy · 29/04/2015 06:59

I have leant not to judge most things but no car seats/wrong car seats really annoys me. Can't grasp why people risk it.

flowerygirl · 29/04/2015 07:38

Rude pensioners. Especially ones who nearly plough you down doing 50mph on their mobility scooters, you move out of the way and not so much as a smile or thanks

NurseRoscoe · 29/04/2015 07:41

People who act entitled to things that they aren't entitled to. Life owes you nothing

ButterflyUpSoHigh · 29/04/2015 07:54

People who are late especially for school
People who drop litter
People who park on double yellow lines
People who spit
People who get their children in a faith school and then moan that they are taught a lot about that religion
People who are irish immigrants to this country moaning about other immigrants
People who don't contribute to school trips even though they can afford it so the trips get cancelled. They see the word voluntary and don't bother paying.