to think nursery are too quick to send dd home?

[firsttimemum0000]

DD is 16 months old and her nursery have sent her home twice in the last two weeks. Both times I have got there having left work and rushed there in a panic only to get there and she's been completely fine. I arrived yesterday and she was sitting there quite happily stuffing her face. I don't want to be a mean mummy and obviously I want to pick her up if she's actually unwell but I think it's a bit silly to insist that she be picked up just because she's teething.

Apparently they have a new policy in place which dictates that if their temp is above 38 they have to go home, no matter what. Which strikes me as being overly inflexible. Even her care worker said it's just her teeth, there's no suggestion that she has anything contagious which I presume is the reason for that policy, to try minimise infections spreading.

They gave her some Calpol which allegedly didn't reduce her temperature which they said was 38.3. But when I got her home it was 37.4. She wasn't 100% for the rest of the day granted but she wasn't poorly, a bit grumpy and cuddly but basically ok. She ate her tea, played as normal, went to bed as normal. She only has 6.5 teeth so far so there's a lot more of this to come. Obviously my dd is the most important thing in the world to me but I have to work to put a roof over her head and with so many teeth still to come out I'm worried this is going to start being a regular thing. It's not really possible for her to dad to pick her up so it's all on me.

There have been times I've picked her up when she was genuinely ill and I have no issues with that at all, obviously. I also wish her care worker wouldn't sound so utterly panicked whenever she does phone me. I'm getting better at ignoring that but her tone of voice has really scared me in the past. I would have thought someone so experienced would be a bit calmer about run of the mill problems that all babies and toddlers have. But that's a side issue I suppose.

So AIBU to expect nursery to manage minor illnesses / teething themselves? The cynical part of me wonders if they do it because grumpy babies aren't as easy to take care of as babies who are 100% fine. Should I query the rigid over 38 and you're home policy with management?

We fortunately have an understanding CM who takes our DD if she's feeling a bit under the weather (seems to have a perma-cold this winter) but still a nightmare about having to explain to work when you can't be there so I sympathise with that dilemma.

My understanding of temperatures was that the height of the temperature doesn't necessarily show how ill the child is, it's just whether there is one or not and whether it responds to Calpol or not?

My nursery has a similar policy, if they have a temp they will call and ask permission to give calpol but then you have to collect. They don’t have a 48 exclusion policy but I think they would prefer that you don’t send them back the next day (although we have done when DS has clearly been fine!).

They say it’s because lots of parents say its teething but they want to exclude to be on the safe side when they don’t know what the child is brewing!

I know how hard it is, my DS is 2.3 now but when he was around 15 months it felt like he had a ruddy temp (that amounted to nothing!) every other week so I was forever leaving work early/taking days off. Apparently it’s very common for their temps to go up after nap time (my ds also sleeps on his face so gets very rosy cheeked!).

My nursery will give bonjela or granules though. You just need to sign a form to say when you last gave it when you drop them off (and they tell you when they gave it on pick up).

my nursery is the same. I think it's fair enough. They have other children to look after and if my child is feeling unwell I would prefer him to be with me that the staff juggling looking after him and other healthy kids at the same time.

Sorry but I would want to have a baby at home if they had a temperature. A young child can fit due to temp.

Also its not fair on a baby that doesn't feel right to be in a busy nursery environment . You might be better with cm?