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AIBU?

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Have I left it a bit late for number 3?

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Favouritethings · 27/04/2015 18:00

I have two ds's aged 8 and 5. I'm 30. Thoughts please...

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BathshebaDarkstone · 27/04/2015 19:45

No! I had number 4 at the age of 44!

Jackieharris · 27/04/2015 19:46

No way I'm a few years older with 2 dcs older than yours and expecting no.3.

Big gaps have many advantages!

(Although I am finding pregnancy tougher now I'm older)

Stinkersmum · 27/04/2015 19:48

I'm pregnant with 1st dc. I'm 40 next month. No, you have not left it too late.

BathshebaDarkstone · 27/04/2015 19:49

About the age gap, DS1 is 24, DD1 is 23, DD2 is 7 and DS2 is 3!

Stopandlook · 27/04/2015 20:02

Are you for real?

resipsa · 27/04/2015 20:08

Oh no, definitely not - but I would say that as DD will be 4.5 in Aug when DD2 arrives. She's due a month before I turn 45! You've not left it late in any respect. Good luck.

MsJudgementalPants · 27/04/2015 20:11

Are you having a laff OP? Yup, you've left it far too late, don't think any woman has been known to conceive over the age of 30.

WidowofBrid · 27/04/2015 20:22

I wouldn't worry about that age gap - my DSs were 11 and 8 when DD was born and it's been lovely - they have really enjoyed it and it's brought out a side in DS1 that I hadn't seen before. Definitely a success! And we're going to go for a 4th in a few years so DD doesn't get lonely when the lads leave home.

Also I've really enjoyed it this time, because the older ones were at school, it was like having the first baby but without the worry! Congratulations, you'll be fine

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 27/04/2015 20:32

I'm 32 and DD is 8. I hope I havent left it too later DC2. DD will be closer to being a teenager when I have another DC.

notquiteruralbliss · 27/04/2015 20:33

Had my first (of 4) at 32. So no, you have not left it too late.

Owllady · 27/04/2015 20:38

Mine were 8 and 6 when my third was born (I was 29) it's been fine :)
Congratulations :)

Owllady · 27/04/2015 20:41

Will you all give it a rest, she's already explained what she meant
She's upset and in shock. I really hope you aren't all this mean spirited in real life

BIWI · 27/04/2015 20:44

FFS - why don't some of you READ THE FUCKING THREAD before you post?

ConfusedInBath · 27/04/2015 21:00

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Charlotte3333 · 27/04/2015 21:17

Congratulations op, lovely news! My two are 9 and 4, and I'd love, love, love a 3rd child. I don't feel lost without one but openly admit if a stork arrived and threw a newborn at me tomorrow I'd be thrilled. DH flatly refuses on the grounds that we're too old (I'm 33 and he's 37) and it would change everything. I agree. But still want another!

Your DS's have had the best of both worlds; your undivided attention for the first few years, a sibling to grow up with and share with, and are old enough for this not to upset them or leave them feeling pushed out at all.

BIWI · 27/04/2015 21:18

I know they don't Confused! That's why I was shouting! So many people on here just piling in. It's ignorant and insensitive.

Not sure why you think I'm hysterical though

AmberLav · 27/04/2015 21:26

My sisters were 9 and 6 when I was born... we get on very well, so I'd say go for it!

DinkyDye · 27/04/2015 21:26

Agree BIWI. By page 2 it was fucking annoying.

Congrats OP.

SaucyJack · 27/04/2015 21:27

My older 2 were 7&9 when DD3 came along.

I love her dearly obv., but if I'm being entirely honest I'm not sure I'd have done it again if I hadn't met a new (childless) bloke in between.

It's hard. The big two adore having a baby around, but going back to sleepless nights and early mornings, and constantly trying to stop a toddler climbing in the oven or running in front of cars is really really ball-achy. Really. Don't do it

pressone · 27/04/2015 21:34

BiL is on number 3 - wife that is. His two eldest sons are in their mid 30s, twins with his second wife are 27, and latest SiL is pregnant with DC1 for her, who is DC5 for him.

All of the new babies siblings - well brothers as they are all boys men, have at least one child, so new baby will be an aunt or uncle to quite a number of nephews and nieces who are older than her (On no evidence at all I have decided this new baby is going to be a girl).

I wouldn't worry about your tiny age gap!

And congratulations

Sixgeese · 27/04/2015 21:35

Congratulations OP, three is hard work, but worth it most of the time

If I were your age I would go for a number 4, but neither DH nor I want a teenager at 60.

My three were born really close together, DC1 was exactly 4 years 1 month old by the time DC3 was born, and 1 or the other does sometimes get left out so I think a bigger gap in that retrospect might be easier.

ChilliAndMint · 27/04/2015 21:37

Grandparents had a 26 year gap between children, beat that!

rockybalboa · 27/04/2015 22:19

Congrats OP, you will be fine. Your elder two will be able to do all sorts of useful things whilst you are dealing with the baby. My 6yo is brilliant with his baby brother.

DarkHeart · 28/04/2015 08:38

Agree with BIWI it is really annoying when the OP has already explained it is not about her age. Congratulations.

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Favouritethings · 28/04/2015 16:19

Thank you all for your kind words xxx

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