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AIBU?

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engaged

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tashabump2 · 27/04/2015 15:58

AIBU to actually want people in my family to be excited for us? My mum doesn't want to help me plan and my sister is just being jealous and making remarks on my ring and my outfit for engagement party! I never want to be the centre of attention but I just want my family to be excited

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shewept · 27/04/2015 20:11

Congratulations OP.

But honestly I wouldn't get excited about wanting to plan something so far away and then talk about it for 2 years.

Little but confused though, why have an engagement partying you don't want to be the centre of attention.

ParkingFred · 27/04/2015 20:22

I would congratulate you, but don't expect everyone to get over excited at your being 'engaged' (for the next 2 years) when you have been together for 7.5 years, live together and have 2 kids!

tashabelfast · 27/04/2015 20:38

Shewept its my h2b wants the party, he says I got a ring so he gets a party lol. I've never had a party for myself so it defo not for me.

myusernameisusername · 28/04/2015 02:43

My family was the same Brother was furious he's a twat and sister told me off for texting to tell her because she was watching a dvd DH forgot to tell his parents and i put it on Facebook and they found out that way MIL won't mention it anymore we decided to ignore everyone and live in our own hapoy bubble best thing ever

toomuchtooold · 28/04/2015 06:17

I should loan you my mum: when I told her I was getting married she burst into tears and hugged me, exclaiming "I never thought this would happen!"

I was 24.

mrsdavidbowie · 28/04/2015 06:26

Lol @ toomuchtooold. My mum wrote me off at 17.
And worried I might be gay

Agree with what other people have said OP.Hope you enjoy

ClaudiusMaximus · 28/04/2015 06:32

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fulltothebrim · 28/04/2015 06:42

I agree with the others.

The fact that you have been living together as husband and wife with kids makes engagement a bit meaningless.

Surely you have already made that long term commitment by your set up?

I am sure it's a nice ring, but doesn't mean much more.

Bunbaker · 28/04/2015 06:54

I agree with the general view that an engagement after the living together and children seems like it is just a formality.

Why wait for two years? Can't you get married sooner?

I kind of identify with the underwhelmed response though because when we told our families we were getting married all we got was "I'm so pleased", and in MIL's case the implication was "and about time too". We had been going out for 18 months and living together for 6 months.

Congratulations anyway

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