Hi,
Me and my DH have just had our first DDvin March and his family live abroad and we and in the process of arranging a trip to go a visit them (about a 2 hour flight away) and we are now having an argument about where is best to stay.
A bit of background is that his parents and divorced and we have the option of staying at either parents house. I say we should stay at his dad's house as we would have over own private room and bathroom and his dad has 3 children under the age of 5 so we would not have to bring much with us as they already have all the baby things, bed steriliser etc. We would them split the time during the day we visit between his mum, dad grandparents equally etc.
We told my MIL this last night and she was really upset and got very angry that we weren't staying with her in her flat. The reasons why we don't want to stay there is there is not really space for the baby as there is no space for a travel cot in the guest room or really any space to store our buggy and she doesn't have any of the other things that we might need. Her solution to this would be that our DD sleeps in her room or in the lounge and considering she would only be 3 months old at this point it is not something we want to do. She is upset that she would not spend as much time with her granddaughter but as I see it we only wouldn't be there at night and she would be sleeping at that point anyway. Also this is not the first time she as seen her as she has been over 3 times already whereas FIL has only been able to come once.
Now my DH wants to spend 2 nights at each house. AIBU to insist that we stay at my FIL place as I think it is difficult enough travelling with a newborn without added hassle of having to move places twice or have to stay with a baby in a tiny flat where there is no real space?