Bloody money!

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AIBU to think my DH should keep bringing up the fact he pays the mortgage when we purposly got a mortgage based on his wage?weve been together since we were 18 and rented until we were 32, have a DC ages 10 months and I'm going back to work part time soon. We've always shared money and been happy with that, he now earns far more than me even before stat mat. But it has never been an issue until we finally bought a house and now he cannot stop mentioning he pays the mortgage! I think he's terrified by the responsibility but still, I'm really annoyed and upset at the way our relationship dynamic is going. I used to earn more than him but it was never an issue. Why should I feel bad that he's paying the mortgage when we've both saved for it for years and always shared money? I'm on maternity with his child for fucks sake.

You shouldn't feel bad. I would confront this immediately. He wouldn't be able to work if you weren't there to care for his child, he wouldn't be paying the mortgage if he had to pay child care.

You should not feel bad. You are caring for your baby, who also happens to be HIS baby. You are also returning to some paid employment soon on a part-time basis so you will soon be contributing financially again.

He needs to stop blowing his own trumpet so much and rubbing your nose in it.

Oh jesus, another one. You are not alone. I invoiced him for his half of the child care costs based on my previous hourly rate before I gave up work to look after OUR child. He soon got the message.