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People who think that toilets are for socializing...

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Painfulbits · 26/04/2015 19:19

Especially at work!

Am I the only person who doesn't wish to socialize in the toilets? If I go into the toilets at work, and someone else is there, they always seem to want to discuss something! Even if I'm in a locked cubicle doing my business!

It seems to happen a lot at social events too. For example if I'm in a restaurant and get up to go to the bathroom, several other women seem to join me, saying, "I'll go with you!" As if they're doing me some kind of favour?

I can kind of understand it in nightclubs and at concerts, where it's the only quiet place to have a chat... but anywhere else and it drives me mad!

I'm a woman BTW, so my experience is only with women's toilets. I don't know if it happens in men's rooms too..

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DoraGora · 26/04/2015 19:22

I think George Michael used to meet people in the loo. I don't know if that's still the case.

GottaFeeling · 26/04/2015 19:29

I've always thought it odd when people do it in clubs etc but I think some people genuinely need the company, they can't be "alone" even for a few minutes in a busy place.

At work I'm happy to chat if we meet at the sinks but conversations through the cubicle wall make me very uncomfortable.

I expect I'm being very naïve to wonder what goes on when 2 women use the same cubicle at the same time

Tanith · 26/04/2015 19:39

It starts early. DH and I are childminders and he noticed that the boys will go to the toilet when they need the toilet, but the girls - some as young as 2 - will gather up at least one little friend and stay chattering while hands are washed etc. Smile

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Painfulbits · 26/04/2015 20:15

Haha! That is true Tanith! When I was little, going to the toilets with my friends was a lot more fun!

I think I'm just grumpy these days!

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WorraLiberty · 26/04/2015 20:18

When I used to go clubbing, I always came out of the toilets with a new best friend Grin

catgirl1976 · 26/04/2015 20:23

When I went clubbing I would spend most of the night in the loos jabbering away to random people.

Looking back I'm not sure why we ever paid the money to actually go to a club. We could all of just had a couple of disco biscuits and sat in the loo and been just as happy.

ProudAS · 26/04/2015 21:01

I don't get this going to the loo together lark. It can be good for a quick hello but I'm quite happy to have the ladies to myself.

daffsandtulips · 26/04/2015 21:09

Doesn't bother me in the slightest unless of course you're dying for a waz and they're in the cubicle together gabbing away and not getting on with what a toilets for. Bothers me then!

McColonel · 26/04/2015 21:11

I've been having a piss at work before and someone at the next door urinal has started talking to me about work.

What the fuck?? Cant it wait? I'm having a fucking piss, leave me alone!

Magmatic80 · 26/04/2015 21:16

I can't stand it! I'm perfectly capable of going to the loo alone. I think it looks incredibly rude, like we would be going together to talk about other people in the group. I tend to slip off to avoid someone piping up that they'll join me.

cleanmyhouse · 26/04/2015 21:25

Worra, i was about to write the same thing. I made so many new mates in the toilets in my clubbing days. All the best conversations happened in there.

ragged · 26/04/2015 21:25

I remember like 30 yrs ago a friend commenting that women usually go to loo in groups and men only singly.

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Painfulbits · 27/04/2015 13:24

From my experience, nothing dodgy happens in a cubicle when two girls go in together. Usually it's just drunk peeing and chat. Although it has been a while since I've done that!

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GraysAnalogy · 27/04/2015 13:27

In clubs it's one if the only places you can hear people speak.

BathshebaDarkstone · 27/04/2015 13:29

I'm fascinated that it starts as young as 2! I must ask DD 7 if she does it.

crazykat · 27/04/2015 14:22

When we go out clubbing we usually go to the loo with someone else so we don't get split up and one left behind.

Writerwannabe83 · 27/04/2015 15:23

I love a good chat in the toilets!! Only at the sinks though, never though cubicle doors Grin

storminabuttercup · 27/04/2015 15:31

I get it in night clubs so you don't split up. Restaurants is just strange though.
When I was PG I had one of my staff come into the toilet where I was being sick and ask me questions through the cubicle. In fact it happened more than once. (I had HG)

Notso · 27/04/2015 15:41

I'm not sure it is just the girls Tanith on DS2's first day at nursery he came out and proudly announced he had been "on toilet adventures with his new best friend Jamie" Grin I never could out what toilet adventures were thank goodness

LurkingHusband · 27/04/2015 15:43

I remember like 30 yrs ago a friend commenting that women usually go to loo in groups and men only singly.

It must have been around then, I was out with a group of friends, and someone made the same observation, as a question. "Why do they do that ?"

A friends girlfriend replied "so we can talk about the guys". Smart, sassy, and a surefire way to make sure the blokes very carefully carried on going singly Smile.

Tanith · 27/04/2015 16:14

Notso: Ha! I know what that is! That's seeing how far up the wall they can get Grin

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