Probably going to get flamed but I'm so annoyed!

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So flame me.
My Exp and I split last year and he has our DD (19mths) some weekends, well mostly his mum but passes it off that it is him.
I am not overly happy with the arrangement but agree to it because at least he is supervised with her as he cannot look after himself let alone a child.

Not looking for an argument as to why I had a child with him because I'd be here all day.

Yesterday I phoned him to see how DD was and was told that earlier she had smacked her head open... not grazed or scratched but cut it open.

Now DD is back home and I am furious, I asked why he didn't phone me when it happened as I regularly do if she has an accident, he just replied that she had only just done it when I called otherwise he would have called when I questioned him as to the time he took offence and took off.

I KNOW he is lying I know her routine isn't much different from here which means at the time she apparently did it was when she would be having her dinner and why on the phone would he say "DD cut her head open earlier".

Anyway I digress, I know he is lying and I don't trust him to call me when there is an accident why should I let him have her, even a school would have phoned me.

Why the hell would he allow her to play outside by a Woodburner (off) anyway?

AIBU to tell him he can't have her if I can't trust him?

Have you taken her to get her checked out?

If it's as bad as you are implying then I presume you rushed her straight to a&e when she came back.

I am sat at OOH now because yes I think it warrants it.

No real explanation except she cut her head earlier on the thing in the garden until questioned I found out it was Woodburner (why let her near it?? ) and as soon as I questioned when earlier he got defence and left without anything else other than ring my mum then.

I don't trust him with her or to look after her hence why he is supervised by his mum most of the time.

There is a huge back story to this as to why I don't trust him with her but I don't believe he is capable as a parent... this comes days after finding out he is driving her around in an untaxed vehicle too so yes I am clutching at straws if it was down to me I wouldn't let him have any contact.

well hope all checks out ok for her. looks like regardless what we say you have history that warrants your feelings.

Really OP you never thought to add 'now I am Sat in ooh with her'?

You know Abu and trying to make it look like yanbu. I get you are upset, but you still have no grounds to stop contact.

Tiny bit drip feedy there OP but as you are clearly worried and stressed you get a pass.

I hope your wee one is ok and you get seen quickly.

Probably a good idea to try and have a sit down with ex (and his Mum) and agree some boundaries and guidelines.

Perfect hope your wee one is ok and feeling better today.

OP YABU and I think you are grasping at straws to stop contact.

How's DD today?

When a child hurts themselves their parent's priority should be making sure that they are okay, not ringing the other parent.