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Is this a cop out?

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ShowMeYourTARDIS · 26/04/2015 03:19

I'm a lesbian. I've known for a bit, but I haven't really come out. Not because I'm ashamed or anything, but because I'm just not good at telling people stuff.

I recently started dating this really great woman and I don't want to hide who I am any more. Can I just come out on facebook and have that be the end of it? So much easier than rounding up friends and family...

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DoJo · 26/04/2015 10:30

Nobody has a 'right' to know anything about your love life! If you choose to tell them then that's fine, but if they work it out by seeing a status update then that's fine too! Plenty of people drift from one relationship to another without announcing it to all their friends, so you shouldn't feel like you have a duty to explain yourself just because you're gay. If you're excited about this relationship and want to share the news with your friends, then that's lovely - you shouldn't feel nervous about sharing good news! Grin

SaucyJack · 26/04/2015 10:40

It's fine. It's 2015, and being gay isn't really shocking news that needs a big announcement any more.

Good luck with the new bird Smile

flora717 · 26/04/2015 11:34

A status change on fb stops you having to find the actual words (well, assuming you/ she tag each other and have your actual gender as your fb profile gender).
Best wishes for this slushy stage Grin

MagicMojito · 26/04/2015 12:48

Congrats on the new relationshipFlowers

I agree that there really is no need for an official "coming out" nowadays. You have met somebody that you like and intend on having a relationship with, just like thousands of people do everyday! No need to explain it to anybody, just enjoy it! Smile

Those that mind, don't matter. And those that matter wont mind.

WindMeUpAndLetMeGo · 26/04/2015 12:56

My DS is gay, I think id always known even though she didn't "come out" until about 5 years ago. I think people won't be as surprised as you're expecting, although I think if my parents had found out over FB it would have hurt them.

WindMeUpAndLetMeGo · 26/04/2015 12:59

Sorry, on app and didn't see the bit about telling your DM. I would tell your nearest and dearest yourself and leave FB to do the rest

Evabeaversprotege · 26/04/2015 13:17

You shouldn't have to make an announcement Smile

Congrats on the new relationship & here's to many happy dates Flowers

CuppaSarah · 26/04/2015 16:44

The only issue with coming out on Facebook is that you won't get to see how happy it makes your friends to see you've found someone lovely. But if you aren't great at telling people things, that shouldn't be too much of an issue.

I think if I were a friend of yours I'd need to give you a massive squeeze. So coming out on Facebook would make me pop because I'd have to wait to hug. Other than that it's not a problem at all.

SoupDragon · 26/04/2015 16:50

Just a photo of you and your new partner, calling her your partner, is what I would do. As has been said, most close friends would probably be unsurprised.

BloggersNetwork · 26/04/2015 17:16

I honestly don't understand why you need to make an announcement. You can start posting photos of the two of you together in a completely natural manner and let everyone draw their own conclusions.

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