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Not say 'excuse me' to this obstruction?!

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GonePenguin · 25/04/2015 14:02

This kind of situation crops up frequently, but today's happened when I had just woken up and was going to get a coffee.

I live above a lovely little neighbourhood coffee shop in Central London. I approached its entrance from about 3 metres away and a man (dressed in top hat and tails - relevant!) was slap bang in the middle of the doorway and gesturing to the church that was behind me (albeit 75m away). There is thus no way he could not have seen me and he had time to see me approach.

He blocked the entire door. I expected him to shift his weight on to one foot so that I could pass. He didn't move a fucking inch. Just carried on braying to someone else in the shop. I had just woken up, I was on 'my turf' so to speak - the baristas in there know me by name! Yes, this doesn't mean I own the place etc etc, but I certainly consider that shop an enemy bit 'my territory'. I suppose it's not relevant, anyway.

So, I thought, 'well, it's fucking obvious I want to get past a enter the store. Must I really say 'excuse me' to a grown man?' I didn't and instead just awkwardly squeezed past him. He still didn't flinch - I think maybe he was being equally as pass-ag as men.

WIBU to not say 'excuse me?' or was he being a prick?

OP posts:
Galrick · 25/04/2015 17:05

Well, I am disappointed.

Two adults being ill-mannered. End of story. Sigh.

Crocodopolis · 25/04/2015 17:14

Both of you were being rude. How he was dressed and that you frequently have coffee in the same shop are irrelevant.

Gruntfuttock · 25/04/2015 17:18

"Surely you would say 'excuse me please' "

Yes, that's what I would say.

Fairenuff · 25/04/2015 17:22

Maybe he wanted you to press your body against his. Personally I'd rather say two little words than risk giving him a cheap thrill.

Hissy · 25/04/2015 18:34

Why would you have been so rude not to use your manners? No excuse.

Icimoi · 25/04/2015 18:36

amicissima, I remember reading about a sociologist's experiment when she spent a couple of hours deliberately bumping into people on a London street (she said she found it incredibly difficult to bring herself to do it!) To a man and woman, they all apologised to her.

Galrick · 25/04/2015 19:54

I know, I love that British thing Grin "Sorry", "Sorry!", "Oh, sorry!", "No, it's fine."

We're far from the only nation that does the mutual excuse thing, but we may be the only one that insists :)

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