My husband is foreign and though it doesn't happen constantly, a couple of times a year, his friends and family invite themselves to our house to stay.
Though they are mostly OK people, I really do not like people staying in my house. We have a two bedroom place in London, and though people see the other bedroom as the 'spare room' it really is not spare at all as I have pets that I keep in that room - if I don't, they keep me awake with their activity.
I am on the Autism spectrum, so I am not very sociable anyway, though I make efforts by making the room clean and nice and cooking food. I am not that talkative and have a hearing aid so stuff gets hard to follow. It's really hard to have people in my space and sharing a bathroom with people I don't know well, and Some of them go in the loo for ages at a time and leave it filthy which grosses me out.
On one hand I don't want my husband deprived of company but on the other side,it is so much stress for me. They will not use a hotel as he says they cannot afford it, but they also give us only perhaps one month notice of arrival. I am working for a small sized company and need to give maybe three months notice for anything such as a week or two holiday. So I end up having work when they are here. Then I have no sleep either because my husband snores all night and the pets end up in my room where they make lots of noise as well! I can't get ready for work as usual because there is one bathroom and everyone piles in. Then I come home and there is all the extra house work for me to do and I am expected to socialise.
I am so unhappy. Another lot just left today and I am fed up, so tired and drained. I asked my husband to tell people to give me more notice, but he says that is not reasonable and I am being unfair. He also expects me to have kids and I really can't imagine surviving looking after the house, work, pets, kids, visitors etc on no sleep.
What to do? :(