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To ask if anyone past 30 still has a full set of grandparents?

325 replies

ComposHatComesBack · 24/04/2015 11:45

I'm mid 30s and have one grandparent left. Most people I know of a similar age are in a similar boat 0-2 grandparents still alive.

Out of curiosity really, has anyone been lucky enough to have made it past 30 with the 'full set' of two grandfathers and grandmothers?

OP posts:
ConnieBaby · 24/04/2015 19:33

I think I'm going to have to hide this thread as it's breaking my heart. Sad
I'm amazed at his many people have Living GP when neither DH nor I even have living parents let alone GP.
I would love for my children to have grandparents. Sad

3noiseyboys · 24/04/2015 19:34

Forgot to add when our first ds was born 9 years ago he had two Great great grandma one of each side we all had children youngish

DisappointedOne · 24/04/2015 19:40

DH did. Even had a great-grandparent into his teens too. He didn't lose any grandparents until about 5 years ago (he's nearly 40). He's lost 3 of the 4 in the past 5 years and the last one isn't very well either.

I had 3 when I was born (and a great grandma), 2 when I was 3 months old, and just 1 when I was 18. She's still going.

FancyForgetting · 24/04/2015 19:41

DD is 20 and knows how lucky she is to have all four grandparents still as neither we nor they were particularly young parents.

DH and I each lost our last remaining grandparent during my pregnancy - both were very old and unwell and I like to think that they felt the next generation was in hand, so it was ok to slip away ??

PekeandPollicle · 24/04/2015 19:59

My gps:

Maternal GD died when my mum was a teenager
Maternal GM died when I was 25. We were very close
Paternal GD died when I was 11.
Paternal GM still going strong turning 90 this autumn.

Dh had 3 grandparents until this year. His GD died in ww2, 2 months after Fil was conceived. Gm died earlier this year. Other set 93 and 96!

BigBirthdayGloom · 24/04/2015 20:08

No-all of mine had died by the time I was 24, when I was 9 months (mat GM) 12 (mat GF), 23 (pat GF) 24 (pat GM). The last two were in their nineties. I had the pleasure of being dh's gorgeous grandma's "adopted" granddaughter until she died a couple of years ago aged 97 when dh was 41. I feel very lucky that my children knew any of their great grandparents-I didn't know any of mine. They all have pictures of them being held as babies and a special toy they were bought by her when they were born (dd2 doesn't need to know we chose on behalf of her great grandma!)

ScrambedEggAndToast · 24/04/2015 20:09

I had 3 out of 4 until I was 21 (my Grandma's funeral was on my 21st birthday). Now, all I have left is my maternal grandma who I am nc with due to the appalling way she treats my mum.

ScorpioMermaid · 24/04/2015 20:10

I'm 30. I have 1 nan, shes 78 I think with no signs of slowing down.. my Gramps, her dh, died 4 years ago. He saw 7 great grandchildren and died at 75. not bad in my books. my older kids remember him and that's nice â?º my other set.. gran died when I was 10 (at 72) and grandad when I was 20 (at 85) they saw many great grandchildren too as that side of my family is significantly large and I'm one of the younger grandchildren.

my DH lost both his grandfather's before he was born, one gran died when he was 7 the other when he was 21. he was very close to my Gramps that died 4 years ago as he never had his own.

kittensarecute · 24/04/2015 20:11

I'm 30 very soon and I only have one grandparent left, my last surviving grandfather died two weeks ago.

poorbuthappy · 24/04/2015 20:15

Up until last year my FIL aged 65 had both parents.

TitsUpTime · 24/04/2015 20:20

My paternal grandfather was an older dad, and died when I was 4 yrs old.
Paternal granny died when I was 16, aged 79 yrs old.
My closest grandparent - my maternal grandmother - died when I was 26 yrs old. I felt lucky to have had that time with her.
My maternal grandad died when I was 32.

My grandparents were all quite 'old' parents for their time though, in their thirties when they had my parents.

My DH is an older dad. His dad died before our kids were born. His mum is 80 now and ailing.
My parents are in their 60s and healthy, though, so its possible my kids will still have them both at 30.

LackOfAdhesiveDucks · 24/04/2015 20:24

I'm 29 and luckily still have three grandparents. My maternal grandfather passed away 3 years ago from a stroke. I feel so lucky that I got to spend as much time with them as I did.

FantasticMax · 24/04/2015 20:48

31 and still have all four grandparents who are in their late 80s-mid 90s. Feel very lucky.

mewkins · 24/04/2015 21:04

I have a friend who is mid 30s and has the complete set. They are fairly spritely too as her mum had her at 19 and I guess her grandparents were pretty young parents too. I have none left.

Pidgy · 24/04/2015 21:09

I did until 29 1/2 when my lovely grandad died. I'm 33 now and still have 3 grandparent. I'm very lucky and my parents were quite young when they had me.

My grandmother was 44 when I was born which to me seems young, especially as I know a few ladies at work that she who are having their first babies.

zen1 · 24/04/2015 21:10

DH's mum is 70 and still has both her parents (divorced, but still live independently). His dad's parents died long ago, though we're much older.

zen1 · 24/04/2015 21:13

*were

Mypubesarestraight · 24/04/2015 21:13

I have 2 nans left Smile

Grapejuicerocks · 24/04/2015 21:16

I was lucky and had all four until about I was 38. I lost the last one a couple of years ago at 46.

I knew I was unusual to have all four at that age. Lots of people commented on it.

MrsMook · 24/04/2015 21:20

I had a full set of biological grandparents until I was 33. They're aged 75-85.

I had a great grandma until I was 22.

my DC's granny is older than their great grandma as my family have much smaller generation gaps than DH's.

MrsMook · 24/04/2015 21:22

One of my grandparents hasn't bothered to retire yet!

PrincessUnicorn · 24/04/2015 21:22

I have 1 grandparent left.

My partner who is 33 this year has one set of grandparents left :)

phlebasconsidered · 24/04/2015 21:26

My great gran passed away at 101 when I was about 30. My nan lived until 95 and lived until I was 39. My grandad passed when I was 14, and I never knew my Great Grandad. On the other side, I don't know, as they wouldn't "recognise" me as I was a divorcees child and my real dad's parents never knew me.

I hope my kids know as much, but it's unlikely as I had them late.

LynseyPynsey · 24/04/2015 21:37

I'm only 22 (although older brother is 26) and our Grandparents are 68, 67, 63 and 62, all in great health and working full time. I think it's lovely my son will get to spend a lot of time with my great grandparents.

I agree about step grandparents being irrelevant - my son's step granda is currently 32 and pregnant with her third child Grin

LynseyPynsey · 24/04/2015 21:37

Sorry that's should read step Grandma