To think that success always comes at someone else's expense?

[mommabear12]

My friend's dd has just got a prominent role in her ballet production because the other girl has injured her collar bone. Her mum feels incredibly guilty as she knows the other girl's mum was so proud of her daughter getting the role but at the same time she's thrilled for her own daughter. I don't think she should feel guilty - there will be other opportunities for the other girl and sometimes fate just deals out the cards that way doesn't it? Surely every job or opportunity we get - someone else has lost out?!

Nop I set up my owns business. Can't think of anyone negatively effects. We have even become friend with our only competitor, having another company had actually drawn more people to out products as people usually try both. We are both doing well.

Someone missing out is not the same at someone's expense, though.

I think there's far too much analyzing involved in this - if she feels 'incredibly guilty' over an event in which she played no part at all then she's either fibbing or being slightly ridiculous don't you think? It's not like she tripped the other girl up with a view to spoiling her performance is it?

Was thinking in more of a general way FarFrom rather than just my friend's situation.

"It is not enough to win; others must lose"

Gore Vidal