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AIBU?

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to feel shattered?

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onesteptwostep · 24/04/2015 07:50

At the start of the week DP got taken into hospital, initially we thought it would only be overnight but it's now going to be at least a week. Hospital is 1hr45-2 hours from home, I've been up there after work twice this week and going again tonight. That's after a full 8 hours at work (and over an hour commute from home to work in the morning). Yesterday I was so tired I nearly fell asleep at my desk. But still dragged myself to the gym (I normally go 3-4times a week but hadn't been since last week because of DP being ill at home, and then in hospital).

I had to drag myself out of bed this morning (have an 0830 meeting so left even earlier than normal...) and feel like I could sleep for a week. I am a bit lazy/ prone to tiredness though so I never know if I'm flagging at something anyone else would take in their stride? my best mate functions on about 4hrs sleep a night so I know she'd think I was making a fuss over nothing!

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AuntyMag10 · 24/04/2015 07:52

Yanbu, that sounds really tiring. A full day at work including another 3-4 hours commute to hospital would definitely be exhausting.hope your DH recovers soon.

BumWad · 24/04/2015 07:54

I would cut the gym out and concentrate on you getting sleep and DH getting better

puddingisgood · 24/04/2015 07:55

I think having someone ill in hospital is quite draining though, and with the extra travelling on top of that I think it's quite reasonable to be super tired.

Timeforabiscuit · 24/04/2015 07:58

Drop the gym and concentrate on eating properly and getting decent sleep, it sounds like you're going through the mill and I hope things get easier soon

Penfold007 · 24/04/2015 08:02

Drop the gym, keep your fluids up and remember to eat. The stress of a loved one in hospital can seem overwhelming.

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onesteptwostep · 24/04/2015 08:04

I did feel better for going to the gym. I might go tomorrow if I can squeeze it in...visiting is only mid afternoon onwards so I might have time. Although I do also need to do housework. And more importantly spend some time with my DC who I've hardly seen this week.

At least I managed to do my food shop online on the way to work yesterday, thank god for the internet!

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nilbyname · 24/04/2015 09:26

Not only are you tired you are probably stressed and worried. Be kind yourself.
Try and get a fresh air- brisk walk at lunch time.
Can you have a bit of leave?

Irelephant · 24/04/2015 09:57

Hospitals are draining OP when my DD was in I was like a zombie and that was only 30 minutes away. Agree with the PP's about leaving the gym and concentrating on sleep.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 24/04/2015 10:02

You feel better after gym because of the endorphins. What you can't feel is the cortisol buggering up your immune system. I had an gym-induced immune crash some weeks back: the runs and the respiratory infection I could deal with, the demodex mite explosion was horrendous.

Cut the gym out until DH is better, eat an extra banana for the 5HT, and catnap instead.

MsAspreyDiamonds · 24/04/2015 10:17

When you go to the hospital on a week night, do you go straight from work or go home first & then on to the hospital? If it's the latter, then you could save time by going straight from work. Maybe book a b&b near the hospital one night so you get to bed at a reasonable time & leave a bit earlier to go straight to work.

Could you hire a cleaner temporarily just to give you some rest. Maybe book an online shopping delivery & just concentrate on important errands.

When my ds is was in the hospital we arranged a visiting rota so there was always someone with her & everyone could catch up on sleep. Could you do something similar to give you a bit of a break?

butterflyballs · 24/04/2015 10:28

My dp spent 8 days in hospital after a serious accident and it was an hour's drive each way. I have two kids and while the older one can care for herself I was doing school runs, dealing with insurance, organising babysitting from friends, sometimes overnight and driving back and forwards constantly. I couldn't even do food shopping, my head was all over the place. I was running on adrenaline and didn't even work although was still recovering from spine surgery.

It's really important to look after yourself. When my dp got home, although I didn't have the driving, I was his full time carer, he couldn't do anything for himself for three months. I was the person holding everything together and was so grateful for help from others (friends taking youngest or food shopping for me).

Take some time off work if you need to and sleep. If you keep going like this you'll end up ill yourself.

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