I need to ask if IABU about my son's health and nursery

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but need to check namechange first as the details will totally out me.

is it your dc's first season in a 'mass childcare' setting?
if so a lo of illness is normal. those children just don't know a lot about hygiene
but the severity of diseases s a worry, I would expect more of 'just' fever and snotty nose.

did he have blood tests for the usual suspects (vit d, iron, vit b12)?
is he sleeping well?
howis his diet?

as an aside, following the swine flu a few years back, my dc's nursery introduced a stricter hand hygiene regime. (washing hands when dc arrive, return from outside, before and after meals, after messy play).
this has drastically reduced illnesses like d&v, conjuctivits etc.

maybe talk to nursery about it.

I went back to work when my son was 4.5 months old (long time ago maternity leave much shorter). He thrived until he went to nursery. URTI one, antibiotics; URTI 2 was bronchiolities (one week in hospital), URTI 3 was pneumonia, one week in hospital. The he wheezed and wheezed and was diagnosed with severe asthma and was hardly able to go to nursery. Then the ear infections started and he had 11 in about 8 months. He dropped to the third centile from being a very bonny boy.

I resigned and gave up work. That coincided with grommets and the summer when he reached 15 months. From that day he bounced back and became well again. Whether it would have happened anyway or whether it was removing him from nursery and being with him, perhaps him not having the long nursery days twice a week (he wouldn't sleep there), I'll never know.

If I had had to stay at work, I'd have switched to the childminder route.

If it's any consolation he's a big, grown up hulking thing now and hasn't needed a puffer since he was 7.

Just a mum's perspective.