to take someone elses toddler to the toilet?

[ElmerRocks]

I go to a toddler group one morning a week, and it's a lovely group, no cliques etc (rare I know, but true)
I know nearly all the mums there, I certainly know all the regulars.
I'm friends with this girls mum, not close friends, but we chat at toddler group and I also see her at the primary school our older DC go to.
Anyway, her toddler started potty training recently, and is doing really well. She needed to go for a wee and was looking for her mum, and we couldn't find her, so I asked her if she'd like me to take her instead. All fine, she took my hand and off we went. As I sat her on the toilet, her mum came out of the stall next to us. I explained I had her little girl there, and carried on sorting little one out while Mum washed her hands etc.
Mum was grateful, didn't have a problem with it at all, and like me, would far rather someone took her DD to the toilet, than left her to wet herself.
So not a problem so far right?
I sit back down to hear from behind me two women talking about how inappropriate I just was and how they wouldn't be happy if their DD had been taken to the toilet by a 'stranger'
I was a bit shocked to be honest as I thought that actually a) it's better than her wetting herself, being upset plus someone having to clean her up and the floor and b) I'm not a bloody stranger.
The two women are fairly new to the group, have only been coming for about a month unlike most of us who have been there a couple of years now, (and some like me who have been with previous children) but I thought they new what a decent group we are.
If your child falls down near another parent, they instantly pick them up and make sure they are okay, stop them picking up discarded bits of biscuit etc.
It's a lovely group and we all really look out for eachother. 2nd hand clothes are passed around from family to family, toys are donated to the group itself.

It shouldn't bother me should it? Especially as the other mum was perfectly fine with it, But for some reason it does...
Would you be happy with another parent taking your toddler to the toilet if you were unavailable? Or like these women would you think it's inappropriate...

Of course you weren't unreasonable! I guess those women are never ever going to need to nip to the loo themselves, or send their child to playgroup!
Daft sods....

I used to go to toddler groups and had three under three... I was grateful if anyone would keep an eye if I popped to the loo and would certainly prefer someone to take my child for a wee than watch them wet themselves!

And... gasp, shock horror.. I'm a TA in special school, some of our TAs are male and they have to do intimate care for all the children.. change them for swimming, nappies (including teenagers) and even change sanitary towels with older girls sometimes ( though we try to have female TAs for that as much as possible)... yes they are DBS checked of course for the job, but at the end of the day it's a trust thing... and we all trust eachother to meet the needs of the child!

You did the right thing!

Thank you all. I feel better now.
I am female.
My husband wouldn't have acted in the same way as me, because of the reactions some people have, He'd have got me instead.

I'm a firm believer in the saying 'It takes a village to raise a child'

I don't know why it bothered me really, but it did.
I do feel better now thanks to you lovely bunch

Ah now, Elmer. Stop this 'lovely bunch stuff': we're s'posed to be vipers, innit?

Technique I read about on here the other day- can't recall which thread or who posted it- but it was to think about the thing you can't put out of your head (in your case, the daft comment the women made) and visualise it disappearing into nothing. Seemingly works.