To think this is a little disrespectful?

[Reignbeau]

An acquaintance of mine died recently, I couldn't attend the funeral as no childcare but have asked a friend who was attending to pass on my condolences to the family. I've just seen on Facebook that someone who was actually at the funeral has checked in and tagged the deceased in the status . AIBU to think this is distasteful and they could stay away from social media while at an actual funeral or is this just what happens now?

mellowjello I can see why people do that, I know of 2 facebook profiles of people who died in their 20s which have been left active for people to post memories, photos etc on. I think on anniversaries and birthdays and stuff is different to at the funeral though, I think people could leave their phones behind for one day.

I know there has always been a problem with people acting inappropriately at funerals and recently the whole "selfie" thing has happened at funerals too. Yuck!

But what to do with someones online presence when they die is an issue not easily resolved. A lot of people like to keep it going. I think it's a bit like calling the phone number of a loved one who has died to hear their voice.

Is it the fact she got her phone out at the funeral to go on Facebook the issue? Or is this person is just an attention seeking twit who wanted people to know she was at a funeral?

I don't know. I get why people don't like this but I also think that it's extremely unlikely there was any disrespectful intent.

Is it the fact she got her phone out at the funeral to go on Facebook the issue? Or is this person is just an attention seeking twit who wanted people to know she was at a funeral?

A bit of both I think, funerals are IMHO a time to quietly reflect and pay your respects not faff on a phone. It also seems a bit grief touristy, like all the people who laid flowers for Diana and lined the streets wailing to show how much they cared.