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Aibu to think... Rude twat

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Leafitout · 23/04/2015 14:15

Owner at my local garage has just said infront of customers to me "what's happen to you look at how much weight you have put on" I looked at him and said " does it affect your life my weight?" Then walked out as I could feel rage building up in me. I really wanted to tell him to shut the fuck up. Yes I have put on weight lately, I was an 8-10 but now probably about 12-14. Ideally I would like to get back to my normal weight but when I am good and ready and not because of an idiot pointing it out so rudely

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AuntyMag10 · 23/04/2015 14:16

Yanbu, rude idiot. But how does he know you so well to make this observation so loudly.

SunnyBaudelaire · 23/04/2015 14:18

REally you should have said, yes and your paunch is massive, are you having twins?

GoringBit · 23/04/2015 14:18

Massively rude. YANBU, and I'd take my custom elsewhere.

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Leafitout · 23/04/2015 14:19

It's the local shop/petrol station and he is the owner who everyone is friendly with. He isn't normally there everyday but pops in on occasions to check things in the shop. I normally go there at least four times a week for years

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londonrach · 23/04/2015 14:21

Wow. Didnt realise someone could that rude. Did he realise he said that aloud? Yanbu.

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Leafitout · 23/04/2015 14:22

He said it to my face whilst I was at the counter and about three other people were behind me in the que

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Mydearchild · 23/04/2015 14:22

He is a knob head and yanbu. I will never forget my first week as a qualified nurse i was in a tiny kitchen with 2 of the ward cleaners and the one said to the other "god you can tell she ate all the pies" i was a size 12 cheeky bitch!

CMOTGilbertBlythe · 23/04/2015 14:23

Dickhead. I'd be taking my money elsewhere from now on, but I'm petty like that.

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Leafitout · 23/04/2015 14:29

I've been on alot of medication because of an injury that had required surgery. So haven't been able to exercise regularly. I don't make comments on his appearance.

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alrayyan · 23/04/2015 14:35

It's so painful when it happens. After 15 years in the middle and far east I am desensitised now. In Manilla most people told me either I look fat or tired.or less fat and less tired than yesterday every single day. The woman at the gym tells everyone they look too fat all the time here in Qatar.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 23/04/2015 14:46

alrayyan it's funny you should say that about the other cultures. I work with a lot of Chinese people and they are obsessed with weight. They think nothing of telling me I shouldn't order chips and curry sauce. (I hadn't told them I was pregnant yet so they all thought I was putting on weight and were completely horrified)

My boss keeps telling me about this weight loss tea for after you give birth. Like losing the weight in 6 weeks is the most important thing!

Angelto5 · 23/04/2015 14:56

What an idiot!

I would have said "yes I've put on some weight but I can go on a diet where as you will always be a rude twit!"Smile

MrsTedCrilly · 23/04/2015 15:05

YANBU! I bet you were horrified! Yes people notice these things but do we really need it pointing out? Is he originally from another country Leafitout? Like others have said already, different nationalities are alot more vocal about these things and have no filter.. In the Middle East they greet you with "Wow you got fat!" and only today my friend in China posted a status on fb saying her neighbour told her "You should do some exercise as you have very flabby arms" Shock I don't think they mean to be rude but we're not used to it so it's a shock.
I'm glad people are generally kinder here!

Financeprincess · 23/04/2015 15:57

How did you restrain yourself from slapping him? I bet the people who heard him say it were horrified by his behaviour. I wouldn't go back, unless to give him a piece of my mind.

Don't take it personally. You are not fat. He's an arse.

Why do some men think that it's acceptable to comment on a woman's appearance? I had a summer job when I was 17, and in the canteen one lunchtime I bought some ice cream. One of the senior men said, "you'll put on weight!" in a twinkly way. I said, "I don't care" and walked off. Even then I knew that it was none of his business.

partialderivative · 23/04/2015 16:15

Why do some men think that it's acceptable to comment on a woman's appearance?

From what I have read on these threads, I do not get the impression that such crass comments are restricted to men.

Wineandrosesagain · 23/04/2015 16:49

I went into a corner shop that I hadn't been into for a long time, but had used a lot when visiting my parents, so knew the owner quite well. When I saw him I complimented him on how well he looked. He said "yeah, I lost weight and I think I gave it to you, you got really fat". He thought he was very funny. Another rude twat.

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Leafitout · 23/04/2015 16:59

How rude "I lost weight and gave it to you" why can't some people keep their stupid thoughts to themselves. It always seems to happen to me and I start to take it personally. Just like when in the corner shop the owner said " bloody hell your tits weren't that big before" he said this infront of my young ds. I was mortified and gave him daggers. If it wasn't for the fact that my DS was there I would have told him to fuck off and more.maybe it is a culture and these men think it acceptable which it is not

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Wineandrosesagain · 23/04/2015 17:30

It was rude and I felt like this Sad all day. Wish I had told him to fuck off. Never go to that shop now.

And good grief Op - how vile of that man to speak to you like that, and even worse - in front of your DC! I can't work out if these idiots are just thick twats or spiteful nasty bullies.

TheWitTank · 23/04/2015 17:33

Yeah, well it's a shame isn't it, because while I can lose weight you can't do anything about your face. And the v 's.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 23/04/2015 17:40

Firstly. Are u on face book if not open an account and tell everyone what he's said. He's made a cunt out of you infront of people. You make a cunt out of him.
Not one person sane or not would say yabu. This man is a rude twat a very rude twAt a rude twat with a Captial R and T and one day his rude twatting around will see on the receiving end of someone's rude fist!
Boycott the shop. Don't go back. He doesn't deserve your custom. And like I said tell others why.
You never make a comment about someone's appearance esp to a women about her weight.
If he'd have said that to me I'd have said and you're fuckin ugly. !!! !!!!

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Leafitout · 23/04/2015 17:46

It was a good job that I didn't know anybody in the que behind me. I'm already a bit down on myself about the weight creeping on but know I have to get off my arse and do something about it. I have a good mind to call his Head office up to complain about him. As for the other twat commenting on my boobs infront of my child he should be ashamed of himself

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