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To not send a thanks and good bye email around the company today.

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ZombieKoala · 23/04/2015 09:59

It's a small company of 30 and we're all home based.

The owner is a complete jerk, think angry patronizing arse. Who hasn't responded to my resignation anyway. The other director has been completely ignoring me since my resignation. The other senior manager is new and doesn't know me and has shown no interest in me handing over any info.

The only one who's behaved normally is one senior guy who freely talks about being on the autistic spectrum. Once he got the news he called me up and had a nice chat, I thanked him, he thanked me.

I want to just email everyone that I get on with and say bye and thanks etc. That is most of the company btw Would I be unreasonable to just do this?

I probably should do a professional email to the owner.
I probably should do a company wide email.
At the least I should email all the staff and cc in the managers.

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esiotrot2015 · 23/04/2015 10:04

:-(
That's awful
Where I work when you leave you get a present and a card and bring in cakes

sparklepopsicles · 23/04/2015 10:07

Send an email to who you want OP. Do you need them for a reference? If not don't bother with the miserable boss. Hope you're going somewhere nicer

Truckingalong · 23/04/2015 10:07

I would just do a fairly brief note and copy everyone in, if its a small company. You never know, it might just get up the beak of the horrible few!!!!

yakari · 23/04/2015 10:07

Tempting as it is, the world is a small place especially in business - so I say short professional note to staff and cc managers. Then any individuals you are friends with or wish to keep in touch a quick follow up

londonrach · 23/04/2015 10:14

Tbh its just got a brief short thank you. What you got to lose and you leave with your head held high as you are the better person and going onto a better job....

TranquilityofSolitude · 23/04/2015 10:15

I'd email everyone and enjoy the view from the moral high ground. Grin

fascicle · 23/04/2015 10:16

I think Yakari's suggestion is a good one. Unless you are absolutely sure doing otherwise won't have implications in the future (given how unprofessional and childish the senior members of your organisation have been, it's possible they could take umbrage if you selectively thank/say goodbye to the people you like). Sorry that you and your resignation have been ignored - leaving the company sounds like a good move.

ZombieKoala · 23/04/2015 10:18

It is a very good move :) I realized afterwards that I enjoyed my interview because I was being spoken to in a professional manner and that they were interested in what I had to say!

I'll have to repeat higher moral ground to myself for the next few hours.

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pluCaChange · 23/04/2015 10:26

Nah. Get a "handover" message placed on your company e-mail address by IT (which will only be triggered if someone contacts you), but otherwise just "hand over" publicly or to individuals and that is it. Don't bother gushing "thanks" if you don't want to; they don't seem to have done much to deserve that!

You're not obliged to be more than professional to these people, who sound both professionally and personally dysfunctional!

elastamum · 23/04/2015 10:36

Someone once said to me 'Always close doors quietly when you leave as you don't know what may happen in the future'. I would be professional - you don't have to be gushing.

Truckingalong · 23/04/2015 10:53

Yeah, agree, no one said be gushing!

Allwayslookingforanswers · 23/04/2015 11:00

it will take a few minutes of your time, send an email just saying that today is your last day and that you will put your out of office on before evening.

WonderingWillow · 23/04/2015 11:04

Yes I would send a short, sweet note to say thanks and bye. Not like you have to gush. It's a small world, you never know when you might need someone. Be super polite and end on a high note.

Never, never burn your bridges.

pluCaChange · 23/04/2015 17:01

I like "closing doors quietly" rather than "not burning bridges"!

Skiptonlass · 23/04/2015 18:02

Email everyone. You never know how many of them you will see again in different jobs. I left one company for a better job job and they had treated me appallingly - the temptation to fire off a "see ya, I'm off for a better life and twice the cash, you miserable arseholes!" Email was immense.

I sent a short " thank you for the opportunities and I wish you all the best in your future careers " email instead. No need to do anything other than that.

Never burn your bridges. Leave with the moral high ground

(Incidentally, the dept who made my life hell got investigated and most of management fired for gross misconduct after I left.)

ZombieKoala · 23/04/2015 22:37

I did get a phone call from the newish person who was technically my manager to .......... ask me to put an out of office reply on my email. They did put in wet, insincere thanks, so I should be gratefull ;)

I dont understand how I ended up in such a crappy situation but at least its over now and in a few days time I will have moved on.

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