Help me out here please. This is a genuine AIBU but it's a bit long.
I lost my job about a month ago and booked myself onto a course starting 21st April to improve my chances of getting another job. On 9th April I was offered another job with the condition that I wouldn't take any leave throughout April as I was needed for those first few weeks. I explained to the new job that I'd booked a 4 day course that I'd paid for in full and they said that the job really did require that I was there for the first few weeks and could I do everything I could to change it. They hinted that if it couldn't be changed without incurring a fee it may be possible for them to reimburse me but it was unlikely. I knew that the terms and conditions of my course stated that there were no changes or cancellations within 20 days of the course without losing the full course fee which was £1198.80. There is no way that I could afford to lose £1198.80 so I thought I'd call the course provider and see if anything could be done if I explained the situation.
The person I spoke to said that, although the rules are that I should lose the full fee, he'd speak to his manager as they sometimes make exceptions. I explained the situation and that I would have to turn down the job if it meant I was going to lose the money. He called back later to say that he'd spoken to his manager and they would allow me to change my course date for a fee of £238.80. Great! I was very grateful, thanked him profusely and asked if I could get that in writing while I spoke to my new job to accept the role.
The next day I hadn't received confirmation in writing so I called the course provider again. The lady I spoke to put me through to someone else who took the payment of £238.80 and said they'd changed my course date to the next available slot. I explained again to this person that I was accepting a job offer purely on the basis that I'd changed my course date and she said that it was fine.
However, a few days into my new job I realised that I hadn't received a receipt for the payment or confirmation of my new course date. I phoned the course provider again and they said that no notes had been made on my account and they would never have agreed to change the date. They said that I'd lose the £1198.80 and there was nothing they could do. They said that the person who took my payment details wasn't allowed to put the payment details through and had discarded them without telling me.
I was really upset by this. If I'd known for definite that I couldn't change the date I would have either negotiated harder with the new role or turned down the job. The thought of throwing away £1198.80 is just awful. There's no way that I could do the course now though as I'd be in breach of contract. I have to be there throughout April now I've signed the contract and started.
So, AIBU to want to take this further or should I just take it on the chin and lose the money? If you'd fight it, what would you do? I've complained on to the call centre staff and they just stuck to the 'it's in our ts&cs that you can't change your course' and they refused to put me through to a manager. I sent an email of complaint but only have the email address of the call centre lady and she won't forward it on or anything. They don't have a formal complaints procedure.
Thanks