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to feel pressured by my mum's prediction that I will give birth tomorrow?

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ladyrosy · 21/04/2015 10:46

I am currently 41+3 with my first DC. About a week ago, my mum made a prediction that I will give birth tomorrow. She has just texted me to remind me of her prediction and to say she thinks she is right. She fancies herself as being a bit psychic.

I now feel pretty stressed. If I give birth tomorrow, it will be the beginning of a lifetime of "I told you so" and her claiming proof of her abilities.

I don't have the best relationship with her, and this plus me being ten days past EDD may be influencing how I am processing information. Am I being unreasonable to feel pressured?

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goodnessgraciousgouda · 21/04/2015 10:51

God, it sounds like you should definitely avoid sex, curry, anything that can induce labour!

Either that or have a very strict agreement with your DP that you will lie to her about the date!!

I know it's silly from a logical perspective, but I would probably feel exactly like you in your shoes.

If you can, try and block her out for the next few days and just concentrate on you.

PisforPeter · 21/04/2015 11:02

Ah, don't be silly, at least she cares!

gunnsgirl · 21/04/2015 11:06

You're probably anxious about a lot of things anyway. Life is going to change very soon and there'll be new routines etc, etc.

One thing is certain your Mum has no way of predicting what day you will give birth. Mother nature is the only predictor of that.

Concentrate on you. What will be, will be. If it does happen, and she starts a lifetime of 'i told you so's, she's being a bit daft. Ask her to predict next week's lottery numbers then...

keepitsimple0 · 21/04/2015 11:23

you are 41 weeks + 3 days? I predict your going to deliver not tomorrow, but the next day.

the probability that you will deliver someday in the next week is extremely high, so I don't think it makes her a psychic if she's right. get her to pick lotto numbers to prove it.

MakeItACider · 21/04/2015 11:25

Make up some nonsense about that being the most statistically likely date for a first child to be born, so it was hardly a 'prediction', just a hunch based on statistics, and continue to scoff at her....

(I'm sure there is a date when MOST first children are born but I have no idea what that is!!)

fellowship33 · 21/04/2015 11:25

Learning to roll your eyes at your parent is an essential skill. My dd us pretty good at it already. Honestly just cross your fingers it's the next day but don't worry about it.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 21/04/2015 11:57

Oh go on, take the piss a little.
Predictions for time of birth
gender
birth weight
weather at the time of birth
colour of first babygro
number of stitches required
volume of water required to fill the birth pool
elapsed time from first contraction to delivery
who is going to win the election

She'll shut up eventually :)

She's not going to work up a Mystic Meg still horoscope for your newborn is she ?

Dr0pThePirate · 21/04/2015 12:36

this sort of happened to me.

DP's grandmother make a psychic prediction that I would give birth on her birthday. I told her and that side of the family that no, I would never be allowed to be that overdue. Nonsense they said, just you wait and see.

Well I was over due but closer to my due date than GM's birthday but this was seen as proof of her "prediction".

I can't even now articulate how much this bothered me at the time. I was ill, tired, blood pressure up, just fed up and terrified of birth in general but everyone kept telling me about GM psychic prediction and that I would just need to wait until her birthday.

I would have needed to be 19 days over due to have given birth on the date predicted.

Utter nonsense but there's no cure for that. Sorry!

SpinDoctorOfAethelred · 21/04/2015 12:42

Options:
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"Er, but Mum, my friends from work/bingo/uni/the pub had a pool going. They all picked different days for this week. One of you was going to have got the right day, no psychic abilities required. Oh, you just knew did you? Well, can you do a bit of "knowing" ell me how long she's going to nap for? I'm throwing a die now, want to bet on it?"

"Mum, I was at 41+3, and I would have been induced if I got to 42 weeks (lie if necessary). You only had 4 options to pick from?! Pick me 6 winning lottery numbers and then I'll believe you!"
"Mum, I'm exhausted. You're being ridiculous and I'm not in the mood. Fuck off if you can't say anything helpful"

Pick as you deem appropriate. I sympathise. My mother drew up my astrological chart when I was born...

chocolatelife · 21/04/2015 12:45

talk about pressured, my DM took my oldest 2 in order for me to have DC3, erm, admittedly I had had a show the day before but still. luckily DD came to schedule

Grantaire · 21/04/2015 12:51

It's annoying because they're making the birth of your child about their own brilliance. Idle guesswork and bets are one thing, crowing about your own imagined psychic abilities is just annoying. Sod your antenatal care and the management of your pregnancy. Your Mum is an oracle. It might be okay as part of a loving, caring and healthy relationship, but sometimes it just takes the place of that. I had a colleague who did it with me. She never enquired how I was or how the pregnancy was going. She would march up, grab my stomach and knowingly nod to everybody "boy, never wrong, definitely a boy" and then swoop off. It wasn't a boy. She still isn't a boy 8 years later. It was a small thing really but I wasn't the vehicle for her psychic fantasies. It was rude.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 21/04/2015 13:17

Or you could tell her that you've had a premonition that someone is going to smack her in the gob...... you can always blame the hormones later

HoneyDragon · 21/04/2015 13:27

My mum used look speculatively at me and insist I'd be early.

And I was.

By two weeks.

Because she shut my hand in the car door and the shock brought on labour.

I've never let her hear the end of it
If you do go into labour tomorrow the universe will avenge you I promise.

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ladyrosy · 21/04/2015 18:10

Thank you all for your replies. You've made me feel a lot better, which means less stress for me and my baby.

I am sorry to hear that others have experienced "predictions" too, but it is nice to not be alone!

I really like the idea of asking her for further predictions. If I get the lottery numbers, II'll be sure to pass them on to you guys!

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Ragwort · 21/04/2015 18:13

Does she live near you? If you do have the baby tomorrow just don't tell her .

YouMakeMyHeartSmile · 21/04/2015 18:13

I'd keep my legs crossed until the next day . That would really irritate me too OP. I was almost willing DC1 to be a girl as MIL was so adamant is was a boy and is apparently never, ever wrong. It was a girl

crje · 21/04/2015 18:15

Ds3 is a prediction baby,it only ever comes up on his birthday, 14 this yr.
I just roll my eyes and ask why they couldn't have predicted something more useful.

londonrach · 21/04/2015 18:51

As long as you and your dear baby is ok and healthy thats all that matters (keep your legs crossed tomorrow please...) xx

morethanpotatoprints · 21/04/2015 18:54

If she is right just keep the coincidence view going. she'll soon give in if you keep on.
Obviously baby is overdue and could come any day, just keep this in your mind, in case.
Good luck, whenever baby makes an appearance

JigsawsAreAllLittlePieces · 21/04/2015 18:56

My daughter was due on my mother's birthday and she would have never let me forget it. Luckily my daughter is a stay-abed and was a week late... She almost came on my uncle's birthday instead! Just one hour short.

CherryLips1980 · 21/04/2015 19:03

Hopefully my baby will come tomorrow and she could have predicted mine, not yours...

(YANBU. It would annoy me immensely if my mother anyone did this.)

CuppaSarah · 21/04/2015 19:06

Dh predicted dds birthday, but tbh it pissed me off so much he hadnt predicted it to br the week before, as if it would somehow have made dd come earlier.

But if it had been my mother, and she had been right. I would have silently raged for aaaaages. Cross your legs and don't so much as sneeze tonight or tommorow

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ladyrosy · 22/04/2015 13:49

Dare I say that with 10 hours left of the day and no twinges, we may be in the clear?

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Icimoi · 22/04/2015 13:59

Fingers crossed, OP.

But if she turns out to be right, point out that it would only be worth mentioning if she'd made the prediction around 8 months ago.

AlwaysDancing1234 · 22/04/2015 15:34

I sympathise OP, my mother has a habit of "knowing" things like that. Except My DS was actually 2 weeks later than her predictions (ha!) and when I told her I was pregnant with DD she said "well of course I already knew" (total b*llocks!)
I just ignore her but it does get on my bloody nerves!
Hope you get to meet your little one very soon - but not today or you'll never hear the end of it!

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