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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to not go to the dentist again for a long time

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 12:19

I hate the dentist I really do, but decided since DS needed to be registered and so forth I'd bit the bullet and go.

Now I have no fillings am in my mid 20's and practice good oral health.

well she stuck this pick in my tooth with no warning or telling me what she was going then ripped off the tiniest bit of tartar, I jumped I had no idea what she just did, and then she said oh there was a tiny bit of tartar so I removed it...Yeah cheers for not warning me cow.

got given the all clear, told teeth were fine and to use inter dental brushes too from now on.

if your going to rip something off someone's tooth is it not etiquette to tell them/warn them first!

it's cemented the fact the dentist is the devil and I'm not returning again for a long time .

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iseenodust · 20/04/2015 12:27

YANBU. She should have warned you. I'd leave it 12 months at least!
I've been telling everyone the dentist stole my tooth this month. In fact he'd been trying to persuade me over at least three appointments it was the only solution (and he could have tried & charged me for root filling again).

YouBetterWerk · 20/04/2015 12:29

It's a shame you had a bad experience, scraping tartar can be uncomfortable and it would have been a shock.
YABU though in saying you are not returning again for a long time, please don't let this one experience deter you from getting regular check ups that are so important. I hate the dentist. But I hate tooth ache more. By all means, change your dentist to one who will communicate better and tell the new one of your past experience, but don't stop going all together. Well done on having good teeth!

QueQuesto · 20/04/2015 12:36

Grow up and set a better example for your son. Do you want him to have a phobia of the dentist because of your needless dramatics?

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 12:37

every dentist I've been to is the same, miserable with no etiquette. Think I'll just give it a year or two before I go back.

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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 20/04/2015 12:39

ginger seriously, the dentist wint give a shit if you go or not. You're ab adult and the only person you are potentially harming is yourself

What the dentist will care about is whether you take your DS or not and whether you make this a positive or negative experience for them

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 12:40

his father can take him Que no need for me to go anywhere near dooms doors, and the fact I've had no major dental work or filllings by now is evident I practice good dental health, brushing them daily and flossing (or now using inter dental brushes) ans will set a " good example" its better than escorting him twice a year to a shitty dental office surely .

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Nolim · 20/04/2015 12:42

Well i think that if you are at the dentist chair with your mouth open it is not unreasonable for the dentist to get started.
Yabu.

cuntyMcCunterson · 20/04/2015 12:44

Could you see about a different dentist at the practice? I avoided the dentist for 4 years after a horrible experience with my orthodontist which just scared me off. When I went back (toothache) the dentist was less than sympathetic so I asked to be changed to someone else. I now have a really nice dentist who explains everthing to me and makes me feel at ease. I'm still not too keen on going but I'm being investigated for TMD and I can go to my appointments without getting too stressed out.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 20/04/2015 12:46

Yes, the hygienist can be uncomfortable while giving you a good clean but I would rather 20 mins of that every 6 months then rotten teeth and all the trauma that entails. Please dont wait years for another visit.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 12:47

Oh I've obviously forgotten to add to my OP that I'm going to tell DS that the dentist is the devil will rip his teeth out of his head and make him scream in agony and pain

I'm not going to, not make appointments for me and take just take DS that would be far to simple and not terryfying enough for the child

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 12:49

she's the only the dentist there unfortunately, and no other NHS dentists are open for registration. I'm starting to feel I know why she has spaces now .

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Nolim · 20/04/2015 12:58

Come on. If you are a nervous patient let the dentist know that you want a warning before she does anything but you are being melodramatic.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 13:01

Nolim there was no getting a word in edgeways when I arrived. I had "sit in the chair" and a light shone in my face and we began, it was frostier than Elsa's palace in the room.

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DayLillie · 20/04/2015 13:05

I am taking a break from the dentist at the moment. I can feel your distress.

I can't see what is wrong with telling you what they are doing, before they do it. It would be nice to know.

Aberchips · 20/04/2015 13:06

If she is the only NHS dentist taking on new patients she is probably so busy she won't have time for the nicities. If you want cossetting then go private. She will likely be glad if you don't come back seeing as you make such a fuss about a tiny thing like that.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 13:10

I have to pay, DS does not. So it's half private half NHS.

Yeah obviously I've missed the memo where its etiquette to warn people you are likely to do something they may find uncomfortable, even the phlebotomist says "sharp scratch" the Dr who 're set my tibia manually said "hold your breath. it's going to hurt" any midwife said "this internal will be uncomfortable" and so forth

Maybe dentists have a different way of practicing, maybe a surprise element is best practice

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 13:13

Oh fuck, and I've just learnt I don't have to pay as DS is 8months, so I've been robbed of 30quid too....joyful. I think that surpasses the slightly annoyed at lack of warning .

Happy Monday All .

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Mrsmorton · 20/04/2015 13:14

You can only get it free if the dentist has an adult NHS contract. Not if the dentist is private.

Takver · 20/04/2015 13:26

I've been to the dentist once since 1998. I paid £50 to register a year or so back and another £50 for a check up and clean. (NHS option here would be in Aberystwyth or Carmarthen both of which are over an hour's drive.) He prodded for 5 minutes, and told me my teeth were fine.

I had regular checkups until age 18, then from 1988-98 I went a few times, every couple of years for a clean, then once when my wisdom teeth came through and it was a bit sore.

I do take dd for regular check ups, though!

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GingerCuddleMonster · 20/04/2015 14:01

Takver I think you have a similar approach to me. Child can go every 6months I'll go when I feel like it again.

Out of interest who here goes relugeously every 6monthd, who goes sporadically (like me) and who ONLY goes when there is a issue e.g. toothake

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mrsdavidbowie · 20/04/2015 14:05

I go every six months. Am 55 and have had no treatment for 35 years...but had lots of fillings as a teenager.
I'm waiting for them all needing replacing.

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