to think a 7 week wait for a coil fitting is ridiculous?

[ferrione]

Just that.

Previously attended GP to ask about coil. Was told it cant be fitted til nurse has done pre coil swabs, and only at another surgery in the next town (and to make appt for fitting AFTER swabs done and results back).

So pitch up for swabs...am asked if I have fitting appt. Then try to book one...first available is 7 weeks away.

This apparently is because the coils are not fitted by GP but a visiting gynae who only comes in for an hour once a week.

Honestly, Jesus wept! Surely avoiding pregnancy should not be this difficult? Not impressed by another 7 weeks of abstinence

And as an aside, I had my second Mirena put in 7 weeks ago and I'm still bleeding every day so me and DH haven't been able to have sex anyway

We have had to abstain for much of the last year (the first full year of our relationship!) due to bleeding. Another seven weeks on top of that isn't great.

Cerazette stopped my periods and my weigh stayed the same.

The implant made me bleed for months and I put weight on, same with Minulet.

They are not all the same.

You can get free condoms from any family planning clinic, and your GP will not say no to giving you the pill if you cannot be offered a coil for 7 weeks.

Sorry OP, but you are coming up with a lot of excuses, if you don't want any of the options offered, don't have sex - or have a baby / termination if you do get pregnant.

Your choice.

Yep, OP.

Just have a lunchtime abortion, or have the baby instead. Problem solved.

saucyjack

Or don't have sex. The only 100% method. Doesn't take a genius to work it out.

WTF has happened on this thread??!

OP comes on to have a bit of a rant and moan about the fact that it takes so long to get a coil appointment and it turns into "shut up don't have sex or if you do, have an abortion."

Fuck Me! or don't actually darling because I have to wait from Feb until mid June to get my coil changed

prepperpig

Ha! I wish there were laughing faces for your last comment!

prepper Um this is AIBU and OP asked if she was BU to think a 7 week wait is ridiculous. I don't think it's that bad in the grand scheme of things. In a perfect world, of course she shouldn't have to wait. As I said, you could wait 18 weeks for a neurology or gastroenterology outpatients appt, why should this be any different?

OK I'll change my to

Whilst in the ten years I've been on here AIBU has always been a forum for being blunt and the OP did seem to have a reason why all suggestions were not suitable, I am still shocked to see it go to "don't have sex or get an abortion"

The OP didn't ask for suggestions on how to manage her contraception she asked whether she was U to think the wait was ridiculous.

prepperpig
Indeed she did ask if it was unreasonable.

She also asked if avoiding getting pregnant should be that difficult, which it's not if you don't have sex.

So no OP, YANBU. But that's the state of the health services in the UK at the moment, so the option is as people have suggested above.

Your local sexual health clinic/family planning clinic will see you much much sooner. And the gynaes there are usually very experienced in fitting them.

As said previously, we don't have a local FP clinic. In our area it is limited to teens only. I'd happily go there if I was able to!

A poster upthread said I should contact my local CCG if I was unhappy. I did, and just got a reply saying they don't have any remit over GPs or their services...apparently I have to contact NHS England

As for the Pill, it might work. However as I said my GP said I have to have 3 'normal' cycles before he'll consider me having the pill - because I complained of bleeding from the injection. I'm not making an excuse that's what he said! And if I bleed with the Pill, I bet he'll say I have to wait another few cycles before I cab have a coil sp I'll be worse off than just waiting the 7 weeks...

There is more to sex than penetration. Surely you don't have to abstain completely, you just can't fuck.

Oral still works or fingers or tongues or any number of things that do not require birth control.

Of course, do not let him come near your vagina or you could still get pregnant, but sure there are other places he can come.

OP - what about your local hospital? many have an STI clinic (or whatever they are called) and will provide pill / condoms, maybe even the coil sooner?
Doesn't have to be an FP clinic as such.

GG above is right too, can still mess about and have fun in the meantime without actual penetration.

I'm also in a London borough - went to GP who said the one doc who used to do it had left so I'd have to try a sexual health clinic.

I did and they were fab, but was a 2 months wait. The place is always chocka - once I went there to get some more pills and they weren't letting anyone else in, then went back some hours later and had to wait 5 hours - they begged anyone who didn't need to see someone that day to go home.

It was the contrast between getting a coil and any other method of contraception that was the big surprise - I thought it was a pretty routine thing, but there's actually a shortage of qualified staff.