AIBU to want another baby?

[driverdontstopatall]

Never posted before just lurked for ages.
I'm 23 had my first baby 10 months ago and I hope I'm not going to jinx it but she's perfect. Sleeps 12 hours a night , same routine every day, always happy and smiley.
So recently I decided to ask my partner how he feels about a second child and he said he would be worried about it because his friend told him when describing his kids if the second had been the first there wouldn't have been another and shoots down any time I bring it up with a million ifs and buts. So do I just stop talking about it now and leave it be or bring up the fact I'd like another child.
I think because me and my brother were born one after another and I like the close bond we had as children that I'm aiming for that iyswim.
Also just to add dp is very laid back and we are happy as we are so I think he just wants an easy life as it is.

YANBU to want a second child but YABU to think your desire outweighs that of your DP to not have one. No child deserves to be born not being wanted by one parent.

Leave it for a while and bring it up again in the future. He might change his mind, but you have to accept that he might not.
Good luck!

i agree with Patapouf, you can't force a baby onto someone. I'd leave it a while and then bring it up again. Babies are hard work even the good ones It's very common for people to want to recreate their own childhood experience, but there is no reason your DC won't be close even if you have a bigger age gap.

No one is bu to want another baby. Ywbu to think your desire to have 2 children close together is more important than your dps desire to not have them.

You are young enough that you have plenty of time to have another at a later date. I have a 7 year gap in mine and they couldn't be closer. My dbro had 2 kids 15 months apart and they don't get on at all. The eldest distinctly does not like the younger one, even though both kids are lovely, having them together is a nightmare.

A certain age gap does not always produce certain bonds. Some kids will never get on no matter the gap, some kids will.

I would leave off for a bit and revisit it. When your dc gets older and a bit more independent, you may find dp changes his mind.