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Original poster

to let the dc play as loud as possible

18 replies

Anydrinkwilldo · 19/04/2015 10:03

Dh went out for an admittedly rare night out last night. Messages started at 2.30, can't get a taxi home. We live in a small village 20 mules from big town and taxis don't tend to want to bring home just one on their own can't make money out of it
At 3.45 he was still standing around like a pleb waiting for a taxi, why didn't he go to a taxi rank you ask?! Why didn't he go to a designated taxi queue?! Fuck knows. Lands in the door at 4.15am all the while I've been awake waiting for him to get home and stressing about how am I going to drag a 1 year old and a 3 year old out of bed to get him. From 5 on the 2 dc have been awake and he's still upstairs Sleeping it off. So I have made sure they dc are playing with the loudest toys in the house evil cackle

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catgirl1976 · 19/04/2015 10:05

I'd be tempted, but if it's rare, maybe let him off

But you must be knackered and drums are so much fun...........

formerbabe · 19/04/2015 10:07

all the while I've been awake waiting for him to get home and stressing about how am I going to drag a 1 year old and a 3 year old out of bed to get him

Why on earth were you lying awake and stressing?! I'd have gone back to sleep and let him get on with it.

Eva50 · 19/04/2015 10:08

I would let him sleep it off until lunchtime and then get him up, tell him you too were up till all hours and it's your turn to go back to bed whilst he looks after the dc's.

RJnomore · 19/04/2015 10:09

Yeah YAbu. If its every weekend it's totally out of order. If its a rare occurrence, then for gods sake leave the man in peace for a few hours, his head will be banging and I hate the passive aggressive stance on here that if someone has a hangover you set the kids on him as punishment.

When he's sobered up tell him not to be a plonker about taxis in future.

base9 · 19/04/2015 10:11

Your dh is an adult. He was in no danger. No good this time but next time text him 'good luck' after the first message, turn off your phone and go back to sleep. Make sure he knows not to wake you when he gets in.

If you have both been up all night this time, then wake him to help with the kids. Or decide on a time he will take over so you can have a nap.

Original poster
Anydrinkwilldo · 19/04/2015 10:11

Forgot to add (not a drip feed I promise) I nagged him all day yesterday about booking a taxi to get home! Next time he might listen.....

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paxtecum · 19/04/2015 10:12

Why would you stay awake waiting for him to come home?

WorraLiberty · 19/04/2015 10:14

I'm not sure what you're hoping to achieve by making sure the kids are playing with the loudest toys in the house?

AuntyMag10 · 19/04/2015 10:15

Yabu, it was a rare night out why be so selfish?

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Anydrinkwilldo · 19/04/2015 10:16

I didn't stay awake it was the constant text updates and 2 phones calls I was getting on his lack of progress to get home that kept me awake. By the time he got into a taxi I was so awake I didn't get back to sleep. We have swimming at 11 so he has to get up now anyway even more evil grin

(Oh and he's 'not hungover' he doesn't do hangovers appaerntly!!!!)

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WhatsGoingOnEh · 19/04/2015 10:16

Taxis are not your problem to worry about - you're not his Mum!

So yes, YABU. You're being an idiot if you encourage your DC to disturb his sleep, after you were up all night of your own accord. He's a grown man, he can get home ok!

base9 · 19/04/2015 10:18

Stop nagging. He is a big boy. Just do not let him make it your problem. Next time, go to sleep with the phone on silent and leave him to make his own way home.

Meloria · 19/04/2015 10:18

Very selfish of you.

SoonToBeSix · 19/04/2015 10:19

Yabu also mean and immature.

letscookbreakfast · 19/04/2015 10:19

YABU, it's not like it's a regular occurrence.

Why are you being passive aggressive?

base9 · 19/04/2015 10:23

She is not being mean or immature or selfish. Her dh was trying to keep her involved in his lack of progress and this kept her awake. She is tired and cranky and begrudges him sleeping when he kept her awake.

She knows not to bother with his crap next time And sleep peacefully with the phone off.

RedToothBrush · 19/04/2015 10:32

Anydrinkwilldo Sun 19-Apr-15 10:11:28
Forgot to add (not a drip feed I promise) I nagged him all day yesterday about booking a taxi to get home! Next time he might listen.....

I suspect that a couple of 'I told you sos' will suffice then. If its a one off leave him in bed.

He was texting you so you didn't worry. Would you prefer he didn't keep you updated and then you woke at 4am wondering why he still wasn't home and hadn't had a text?

msgrinch · 19/04/2015 10:40

Yabu. Stop being passive aggressive and let the man sleep.

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