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To just never have sex?

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MaddingCrowd · 19/04/2015 06:00

Have an 8mo (and older DC) and it's been such a tricky road. I never never never sleep.

I can count the amount of times we've had sex since she was born on two hands and maybe a foot.

It's not that I don't want to, I do and I think about it a lot. But I honest to God have no time. I go to bed shortly after DC do (when finished cleaning up etc)!as I know I'll be up five or six times in the night (something I'm trying to sort so please don't tell me to sort that out!). Once or twice a week I'll stay up reading for twenty minutes/get to stay in bed for twenty minutes in morning reading. This is seriously the only time I get to myself ever and in this time I'd rather read than have sex. Is that a problem? Should I be chomping at the bit to do it using my only forty minutes a week? Or is that pretty normal?

DH is very helpful around the house and with DC etc but has a very busy and stressful job. I feel very guilty that we aren't having sex often.

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BakingBunty · 19/04/2015 20:37

Like others, I'm impressed with 10-15! I also have an 8 month old, and a 3 year old too. I have had sex once since DD was born Blush. Are you breastfeeding? I find it totally kills my libido and also makes sex really uncomfortable (bloody hormones).

DH occasionally gets a half hearted hand job Grin. Must make more effort as I really do fancy him!

ahbollocks · 19/04/2015 20:40

Youre doing fine I think! My dh was like yours, but then pre dc we had sex everyday.
I find it really unattractive when men are obviously desperate. It sounds mad and can create a bit of a vicious circle so I tried to just shag him once a week Blush and make him erm finish as quickly as possible.

HermioneWeasley · 19/04/2015 20:43

I don't think we had sex for a year after Dc2 was born. We are back In The swing of things now.

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