To feel that, actually, they prefer a place to a person?

[PolaDeVeboise]

Background: I lived in London for @ 20 years and built up a fantastic group of friends. I moved 500 miles away in 2008 for family reasons. Since then, 2 of the party (of @ 8) have visited roughly once a year but, beyond that, visits have been sporadic. I go down there @ twice a year and see them all.

However, each year since then, most of the group gone to New York for a trip. When I ask when they are likely to visit me, I get various excuses from 'money' to 'no holiday left'. Oh, and I have plenty of room for people to stay with me.

AIBU to think that the location is more important than the friend? Hit me with it, I can take it!

I would LOVE to be able to go but, financially, its just not viable. As well as that, I have 2 school-age children so it's a big ask holiday wise too.

It's completely different. The stuff in new York is only in new York. I'm afraid as harsh as it sounds you offer friendship and that can still be found in london for them.

Even although they do the same stuff in the same places when they go Square?

Some friendships don't survive distance, I think it's as simple as that. And presumably you are closer to some of the group than others? I don't think you can reasonably approach it as 'If you have time/money to go to NY, then you should be visiting me'.