To be angry about what was under the bed

[Fletcherl]

A few months ago DH suggested we engage in a sexual practice that I did not want to. He was grumpy and manipulative blah blah and we were going through a dry patch so in the end we did he suggested. Went we had finished he was upset as he felt I had only gone along so the sake of it (true) and he angry and disappointed that it hadn't lived up to his dream. I was angry and upset too. We then talked a Bit about it but basically decided not to venture to this place again.
Roll on today and I am try to find something that had rolled under the bed and I find a load of paraphernalia related to this practise. I feel angry and a bit sick.
Honest views please

Be angry about the coerced sex, not a dusty strap on.

If it was that dusty then I wouldn't worry about it so much. It sounds like he bought it at the time in a fit of over-enthusiasm and has simply never got rid of it. I would be more worried if it wasn't dusty, as it would suggest he bought it recently and/or that he may be using it with someone else or still hoping to use it with you.

I wouldn't worry about the stuff under the bed and would just dump it in the bin and say nothing.

I would be majorly pissed off about him being a git because you didn't put on a good enough act of enjoying this 'thing' he wanted to try though.

Went we had finished he was upset as he felt I had only gone along so the sake of it (true)

Tbh op, living with a man who coerces you into performing a sexual practice when you don't want to & continues with said practice when he is fully aware that you are only doing it for the sake of it [and so not enjoying it] is a bit more of a concern than what was under the bed, I feel.

From experience dont ever ever ever do something you dont want to do sexually. You end up getting the rage whenever it is mentioned and ut totally kills off your sex life.
Had similar situation with my ex and it put me off sex for a good 2 years

Would it be possible to use this stuff on his own and enjoy it?

I initially read this as 'Would it be possible to stuff it up his own arse'. Maybe that's an option?

He sounds like a manipulative bully. Bet it was water sports.

Exactly what different said.
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man who would continue to perform a sexual act that I had said that I didn't want to and was clearly not enjoying.

What was under the bed, then, NoArmani? A potty?

A rubber sheet and a funnel :)

Oh no, really?

On a more positive note, the fact that it's been, quite literally, gathering dust under the bed all this time suggests that your hunch is right - he bought it 'cos he thought it would help, it didn't, he's forgotten about it.

I would concentrate on your romantic weekend if I were you.