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Original poster

to comment loudly?

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ShouldIworryornothelp · 18/04/2015 14:16

My neighbours are with their daughters and sons in law sunbathing in their front garden talking very loudly and as I'm in my house with the windows I can hear them slagging us off very very loudly.

Aibu to stick my head out or say loudly that I can hear them or ask for a witty remark to poke my head out the window and say?

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Dionysuss · 18/04/2015 14:17

What sort of things are they saying??

ajandjjmum · 18/04/2015 14:18

Don't the plants in your borders need watering on such a nice day? Hope you don't get a sneezing fit as you're holding the hose! Grin

ilovesooty · 18/04/2015 14:19

I imagine they know you can hear them.

WorraLiberty · 18/04/2015 14:19

If they're slagging you off 'very very loudly', then they obviously want you to hear.

So no point telling them you can hear them, unless you fancy an argument right now.

nicenewdusters · 18/04/2015 14:20

Do you get on with them normally, is this out of character ?

If you don't know/like them, I'd ignore them, as they probably want a response.

If you thought you were all friends/ok with each other, I'd pick a quiet moment over the next few days with just one family member and tell them what you heard.

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ShouldIworryornothelp · 18/04/2015 14:21

How lazy I am and that I don't know how to keep a house (I work full time and have hidden disabilities) I know how to keep a house just don't have the time or energy

How they're sick of our drive being such a state (it's 30 years old and we can't afford it)

That we need to have our pets taken off us (nothing wrong with our pets. They're rescue animals and each time we rescue we have a home check and are responsible owners)

I may go and water my plants, that's a very good idea

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RitaOrange · 18/04/2015 14:21

What are they saying?

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ShouldIworryornothelp · 18/04/2015 14:22

Never really spoken to them other than the usual pleasantries of hellos and how are yous

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RitaOrange · 18/04/2015 14:23

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Don't go out there- they are after a scrap.

WorraLiberty · 18/04/2015 14:24

Why is watering your plants a good idea?

What are you hoping that will achieve?

Shesparkles · 18/04/2015 14:24

Ignore ignore ignore.
I has similar neighbours in my last house-it drives them nuts Id you ignore them Grin

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ShouldIworryornothelp · 18/04/2015 14:25

It'd make me feel better. But yes I know u shouldn't unless I want a scrap.

It's horrible being unable to sit in your own home without hearing these things

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ShouldIworryornothelp · 18/04/2015 14:25

I shouldn't even!

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ihatelego · 18/04/2015 14:26

mmm.. depends on how you feel, would you feel better to say something? or would confrontation leave you feeling anxious and stressed, i'd personally not say anything and just rise above it for an easy life, sod what they think!

MissDuke · 18/04/2015 14:27

Just ignore them. A lot of people think people working full time shouldn't have pets, and some rescue places won't re-home to people who work full time. Also some people do be annoyed when others don't keep their house nicely, as they want to appear to live in a 'naice' area Grin Ignore, son't let it get to you!

RitaOrange · 18/04/2015 14:27

They are being nasty- don't take it to heart.
They obviously get off on slagging people they don't even know.

Its a sport to some people my auntie

ihatelego · 18/04/2015 14:27

perhaps you could play some feel good music quite loudly to drown them out and have a little dance/sing Smile

reni1 · 18/04/2015 14:28

Not worth getting into a neighbourhood fight about. Rude and annoying certainly, but you live your life the way you think is right for you, neighbours opinions on this are utterly irrelevant. It can hurt, but only if you let it.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 18/04/2015 14:33

fuck em (as in ignore them)

They're showing themselves up by being such bastards in earshot.

Or play loud music declaring that 'haters gonna hate' or some such (look at me quoting Taylor Swift Grin )

HazleNutt · 18/04/2015 14:44

"Isn't it nice and quiet around here, DH, you can literally hear what everybody else is talking about.."

chinstrappenguin · 18/04/2015 14:45

I once overhead my neighbour slagging me off to her DIL whilst in the Dr surgery. I was so Shock i just moved places. The chief gripe was we hadn't trained our cats and they were sick of them being on their fence!

coolaschmoola · 18/04/2015 14:48

They are sunbathing in their FRONT garden?! faints Ignore them op, they have no standards.

HazleNutt · 18/04/2015 14:51

chinstrap, were they sunbathing provocatively? (There was a recent thread where a neighbour accused the OP's cats of making neighbour's dogs bark by being in OPs garden)

Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 18/04/2015 14:59

I'd burst into laughter and loudly shout, 'Dh, come and see cellulite city on display, it's so funny!'

I would them keep up muffled snorts of laughter any time they so much as moved. I wouldn't normally advocate personal remarks but they started it.

MagicMojito · 18/04/2015 15:21

Raptor I love that you feel you had to make clear not to actually go fuck the neighbors GrinGrinGrin

Op ignore them. They are, at best a twatty annoyance and not worth a reaction.