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aibu to think it strange that she remembered dh's birthday?

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nemoskeeper2 · 17/04/2015 08:36

It was dh's birthday tomorrow. On tuesday, we visited a pub that we had not been in for several months where we saw another married couple that we had been acquaintances with (not friends as such) and chatted to once in a while. Acquaintances sounds a cold world but the only one that will do. Anyway, the dw wishes my dh a happy birthday for this week.

My husband does not go on any social media and I don't use facebook.

I'm just thinking here idly having had a day off, AIBU to think it weird that she remembered his birthday?

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LemonySmithit · 17/04/2015 08:38

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QueQuesto · 17/04/2015 08:38

Maybe he shares a birthday with someone else close to her and that's why it stuck in her mind.

Perfectlypurple · 17/04/2015 08:38

Maybe his birthday was mentioned before and she remembers because it is the same as someone else, like her mum or something. I tend to remember birthdays of lots of people not just close friends and family.

18yearstooold · 17/04/2015 08:39

I used to work with someone who could remember every date ever

You only had to mention that it was your child's birthday on Saturday and the next year she would say 'have you any plans for dd's birthday on Sunday?'

Perhaps she is the same?

londonrach · 17/04/2015 08:40

Maybe the date is a memorable date for another reason. I had a school friend who has the same birthday as my gran. Havent seen my school friend as in the same class from age 11not close. Ive not since her since i was 16. Every year that day come around i strangely think of her. She only said her birthday once when we were 11 but mentally i linked it to grans birthday x

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 17/04/2015 08:40

Some people just do, i was surprised to find that a former colleague i haven't set eyes on more than twice in the last ten years remembered mine last week. i can remember those of some people i was at school with 35 years ago. Especially if it happens to coincide with their own birthday, or that of a close family member.

katiegeee · 17/04/2015 08:41

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FenellaFellorick · 17/04/2015 08:41

She's either really good with dates or she's been told his birthday at some point and remembered it because it turns out he shares it with the cat or something Grin

PrincessOfChina · 17/04/2015 08:43

I would remember something like that. I can still recall birthdays from school. And phone numbers of school friends. I couldn't tell you DH's mobile number though.

Aussiemum78 · 17/04/2015 08:43

I remember birthdays of old boyfriends, friends etc but also random people if they share a birthday with me or a family member.

NewName228 · 17/04/2015 08:44

Not weird. I have a 'photographic' memory for that kind of thing - have frequently surprised relatively new friends/acquaintances by remembering their/DH's/DC's birthday.

Might be that your DH shares a birthday with someone she's closer to so it stuck in her mind.

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nemoskeeper2 · 17/04/2015 08:48

Not so weird then, thanks.

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shewept · 17/04/2015 09:19

I remember random birthdays all the time. I struggle more with exact dates of people I know well. Apart from very close family.

SaucyJack · 17/04/2015 09:36

I'm quite good with dates too- specially if I can find a "pattern" to them.

MarvellousMarbles · 17/04/2015 09:42

I remember quite a few people's birthdays (though generally don't get round to sending a card or anything nice like that). But I do think of them on the day and think good wishes! So if I saw them in the run-up I might say something. I'm also quite good at 'pegging' dates. So if a birthday gets mentioned, I'll think, 'oh, that's the same day as X or J' and then it's associated in my mind, and will pop up without me particularly trying to remember.

sparechange · 17/04/2015 09:54

My money is on your DH sharing a birthday with someone she is close to...
She has made that mental association, so when it is her brother/best friend/dad's birthday, she knows it is also your DHs birthday...

chrome100 · 17/04/2015 10:06

I remember everyone's birthdays I have ever known, even people I haven't seen since primary school. I have no idea why.

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 17/04/2015 10:34

There was a girl in my class at primary school whose Birthday I still remember. I wasn't friends with her and was never invited to her parties and we went to different secondary schools so I haven't seen her for nearly 24 years. Her Birthday was four weeks and three days after mine. I was born four weeks and three days early, so her Birthday was my due date.

Her Birthday's coming up very soon, and if I happened to see her I would probably wish her a happy Birthday, and then later worry about how weird it must look that I still remember.

So I agree with others that there's likely to be some significance about the date of your DH's Birthday for your acquaintance. Or she just has an amazing memory for Birthdays.

TheBooMonster · 17/04/2015 10:46

I have all the birthdays I'm aware of on the calendar and I regularly check to make sure nothing's coming up, if I'd checked the calendar within a few days before seeing someone and their birthday was any time in the next fortnight I'd remember, it's not that strange...

happygirl87 · 17/04/2015 10:59

I got married in late Dec, and had a mammoth spreadsheet to organise the wedding, but was still v frazzled in first week of Dec when a number of things needed to be finalised/confirmed and suppliers paid etc, as well as obviously all prep for Christmas! One date was not on spreadsheet but I was adamant that it was a date of significance, and racked brains to try to think what on earth Id forgotten. Eventually realised it could only be that fact that it was the birthday of my first ever boyfriend's Dad- haven't seen the ex or the Dad for 8 years Grin

BarbarianMum · 17/04/2015 11:11

I'm rubbish at remembering key dates but I know my boss's husband's birthday because it's the same day as mine. Plenty of innocent reasons why this might happen.

Ludways · 17/04/2015 11:15

I work with a bloke who is always shocked when I remember his birthday, it's the same day as my daughters, lol

Vintagebeads · 17/04/2015 14:17

Some people are really good at remembering stuff.

My sister's MIL remembers both my DC birthday a sends them a card, its always on time and we live in a different country.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 17/04/2015 14:21

I would remember that too.

Annoyingly for me I forget everything else!

PurpleSwift · 17/04/2015 14:45

Strange. Maybe, but I remember things for random reasons and could come across as odd i suppose. I think you're thinking over it too much.