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To be annoyed for dd?

11 replies

MyFriendsCallMeOh · 16/04/2015 14:28

Don't normally post here....

Its the school holidays so dd1 has a friend for a sleepover. We said we'd go trampolining so I asked dd2s friend with her mum and sisters. Then it was mentioned to another of dd2's friends so she was coming with her mum and sister.

Had planned to go to a place 15 minutes from my house but one of the dd2s friends lives further away so we agreed to go to another one, half an hour from my house, had slightly better reviews too. Looked online, checked opening hours etc.

Got there and the place was closed for renovation!!! I said I would drive to the other trampolining place which is 10 minutes away (kids were desperate to go, they've wanted to do this for weeks). One mum says she has a headache and wants to go home and swim (we're not in the UK). Other mum says her kids would prefer to swim too.

So dd1, her sleepover friend, dd2 and I head to the original trampoline place and dd2 doesn't get to jump with her friends - she's disappointed. Had a text from one of the mums asking if we had a good afternoon. AIBU to respond and say dd2 was disappointed not to go with her friends?

OP posts:
BarbarianMum · 16/04/2015 14:40

YANBU to be upset on behalf of your dd but I'm not sure the other mums did anything wrong either. Just unfortunate that the place you tried was closed.

keepsmiling2015 · 16/04/2015 15:26

She might be disappointed but it's hardly something to get in a tizzy about tbh. She's still getting to go trampolining.

Debinaround · 16/04/2015 15:35

I get why your DD would be upset but I wouldn't text back with that. It will probably cause bad feeling between you and the other mam and it's not worth it.

It's not like they dropped you at the last minute, things just didn't go to plan and they wanted to go home.
I would forget about it.

Hope your DDs enjoy the sleepover.

Satsumafairy · 16/04/2015 15:37

Things like that can be annoying, I do feel for your dd especially as she's waited all holidays. These things happen though don't they, perhaps it's an activity that this mum finds a bit much especially if she had a headache.

Satsumafairy · 16/04/2015 15:40

Oh no don't text anything tetchy back, I don't think it's a deal breaker.

PurpleSwift · 16/04/2015 15:44

I think YABU. It'll come across as passive aggressive and could cause friction and over what? Does it really matter?

Original poster
MyFriendsCallMeOh · 16/04/2015 15:51

Thanks for the perspective. She's 6 and wanted to play with her friends, that's all. Will let it go.

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Satsumafairy · 16/04/2015 17:44

I do understand, especially having an only. We've had similar situations, people pulling out at the last minute. One friend did it so often we gave up arranging things!

AugustaGloop · 16/04/2015 17:46

I think the text indicates your friend was feeling a little guilty about it and wanted to make sure no hard feelings. I would let it go.

HerRoyalNotness · 16/04/2015 17:50

I'm not sure why the other mums didn't ask you all to go back to their home for a swim tbh. That's what I would have done, and rearranged the trampoline day.

Just say "DD2 enjoyed herself, and is looking forward to going there with her friends another time. Let's organise soon"

SaucyJack · 16/04/2015 17:56

Build a bridge and get over it.

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