Feeling bullied but ridiculous, AIBU to take it further (work)

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So basically a new woman started at my place of work and seemed ok at first, after a few days kept calling me Alice. I kept correcting her but it seemed genuine so I didn't think much of it. Then she started asking everyone if they liked Alice Cooper, again didn't think much of it until she looked at me, asked me and then burst out laughing then the "alice" mistakes and the laughing made me think she was getting at something.

The next thing was that she posted loads of alice cooper music videos on her facebook and tagged me in them. I asked what she was on about and she said she thought I liked him. So by this point I realise she is taking the piss and next time at work ask her why she keeps calling me alice and going on about the singer. She said I was being paranoid but another colleague told me that she'd asked her if she thought I looked like Alice Cooper and she'd apparantly been asking everyone.

Final straw was a name sticker with Alice on it was placed on my locker.

I know I should just ignore it as it's kiddy stuff but it's doing my head in. AIBU to take it further (along the bullying route?)

I promise you, HR won't think it's ridiculous

Write it all down, with dates etc.

See your manager.

She's either an immature berk who thinks this stuff is genuinely funny and can't see how childish it is and needs telling by someone higher up (we have a thing in our Staff Handbook about treating other staff with respect etc, and it's covered in induction). Or she's a nasty one and they really need to know early on so they can keep an eye on things and think about her probation. We've weeded out a couple of people early on when they turn out to be pretty evil to people they work with, we don't need them, but do we need other staff to tell us about it and not cover it up. It turned out they were pretty bad with our clients as well. It's not just you who'll benefit, the business will as well.

I am shocked. I would report. That is batshit crazy and should not be condoned. I am sorry you are having to deal with this op.

I agree re FB, I would remove her.

I worked with a girl like this before, took me a while to see it and she was subtle but she turned the team against me made me look paranoid and unable to take a joke. I wish I'd have reported her when it started before she turned other people against me. You should report her now before she takes it any further it may seem petty as single incidents but all put together makes a difference. She sounds vile.

i used to work in HR.
you definitely have a case here.
gather and print off all relevant evidence.
then report this to your line manager but also to HR.
i would push for full and thorough action on this.
this woman sounds dreadful.
do not let this go.

I agree with WineIsMyMainVice - you need to make it clear to her first that you dislike what she's doing and want her to stop. Put it in an email, so you have a copy to show your manager if she continues. She may think it's harmless teasing, and not realise how horrible it actually is. If she still carries on, then absolutely speak to your manager about it. In the meantime, make notes on everything so you have a log if needs be.

This is not just bullying but harassment, please speak to someone

I think Alice Cooper is an awesome individual, but this would annoy the shit out of me. It would probably even annoy Alice Cooper.

Others have given you good advice on how to deal with this (that is to say formally and firmly) and so I'll just give you my sympathy.

(By the way, you could always try going in wearing black leather gloves, wielding a riding crop, and saying, "No more Mr. Nice Guy!" Or, you could roll your eyes and say, "How old are you? Apparently School's Out For Summer!"

OK, not really. You probably don't even think that's funny. I hope this bitch gets the sack for her ridiculous behaviour.)

Fucking hell, definitely take it further.
Agree with the others, screen shot the facebook stuff and write everything down. Then block/un friend her.

Do you have a HR department? Make an appointment to see them and make an official complaint.

Bet she was a complete bully at school. She needs to have it forcibly pointed out to her that in the adult world of work, acting like a spiteful 12 year old for a "joke" is not acceptable to anyone.
Get HR to give her a good bollocking. And stop adding everyone who crosses your path to your Facebook list.

Someone old enough to have a job is behaving like this? I bet your colleagues feel really uncomfortable with this too. I'm speechless.

Take it further op. This women is a bully. Probably been so almost all her life. Mocking and ridiculing people as she sees fit and I get the impression she has been allowed to get away with it.
Get her reported right away. This is sbuse and you do not hAvd to put up with it. I fucking detest bullying twats.
Knock the nasty bitch down a peg or 2 or 3, oh and enjoy it as well. She's reveled in mocking you. on your behalf

Take it further. Screen shot all the FB pages she's tagged you in and then de friend her. Also take photos of the stickers etc. Ask the collegue if she'll report what was said about you looking like Alice cooper.

How old is this woman OP? She sounds about 12 or something.

agree with all the PPs. Take this seriously and nip it in the bud pronto. She needs to know she cannot mess with you.

I agree with number3 definitely remove from Facebook, tell her to stop then report. She sounds unhinged.

You need to take this further. This really sounds like she is a nasty piece of work who knows what she is doing.

Take screenshots/photographs of the evidence.
Keep a log of verbal incidents.
Ask her to stop as other people have suggested, either with witnesses or by email (or ask her to stop with witnesses and send a follow up email)
Bring to the attention of your boss and HR.
Consider having a preliminary "what should I do?" chat with someone on HR if there is someone you know and trust there.

This person sounds practised and nasty and they need to be dealt with. There is a slim chance that they are just really immature, in which case it is better for them that they learn that this behaviour isn't acceptable quick smart.

Lots of good advice here, please follow it, especially documenting dates and info, keeping any evidence (sticker etc) and speaking to her one last time with a witness. Please do not be her friend on facebook she is a sick idiot.

And remember you are the normal one, she is a twat! (and I do not swear much)

This is bizarre. It's just so childish. How old is she - six?

I just don't get why an adult would behave like this. She's new, so presumably she's still at the stage of finding her feet, wanting to make a good impression etc. Why would you risk pissing colleagues off?

Nasty woman. Yy to having a witness

That's got me really angry for you. That's so fucking childish and its like bullying you'd see on the playground, it's pathetic. Yes, take it further.

Just to echo everyone else, this is absolutely unacceptable and you should definitely take it to manager/HR

absolutely NOT ON - I can't understadn why a newbie just in the job would behave like this, not that it would be OK if you were the newbie and she was senior to you, but you'd think in a new job folk are on their best behaviour, keen not to put a foot wrong, no?