to think dp is being a bit of a twat

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Dp snores horrendously, I find it very difficult to share a bed woth him because it disturbs my sleep so much.

dd is 19 months and not herself tonight (half waking and screaming, thrashing about and then calming down but whimpering like in pain but no temp etc) so is in with us so she doesn't disturb dsd.

Dd has woken me several times but is currently asleep, do hasn't woken once but is snoring something awful so I have told him to either shut up or sleep on the sofa as between him and dd I have already had 2 nights this week with no sleep at all and still having to go into work.

he has finally gone downstairs but had had a massive temper tantrum about it and thrown stuff around downstairs but is asleep on the sofa as he is still bloody snoring.

I had a cough a couple of weeks back and spent a fortnight on the sofa so as not to disturb him in his nights off so aibu to expect him to nit throw a tantrum worthy of the toddler when I kick him out of bed so I actually get some sleep for once?

Extremely heavy sleeper and bad snorer, I'd be shipping him off to the doctors to check its not just snoring! If he says he won't go, record how bad it is.

have done previously but he needs to lose some more weight before they will even look at anything else unfortunately. he never used to snore but has put on a couple of stone I'm the last couple of years so I thinking is more weight related.

he has phoned me today and grovelled, said he knew he had promised to go on the sofa if he was keeping me up but like lots of you have said he wasn't fully awake and just snapped as he wasn't capable of rational thought.

am on my own for a few days with a very poorly baby so nit going tonne getting any sleep for the next few days either!

I would move into DD's room (or get him to swap with DD) until it is sorted. DSD can be in with him when she's there

If hes is snoring and working shifts he may be getting more hours than you but possibly poor quality sleep (either alone wd be bad enough)? And that won't be helpful for either of you.

Shifts might be contributing to his weight problem too, by messing with his insulin levels (don't quote me but I think I have read this somewhere).

I realise as a family you may have no choice about this so I may be being really unhelpful - sorry if so.

However if the two of you can somehow tackle his weight and snoring together, perhaps things could improve for you both? I am lucky, i can shove my dh in bed and he changes position without really waking up, plus his snores are relatively quiet (so far...). Plus I know I snore too

You have my sympathy..my DP is a horrendous snorer. I put up with it for a while,but I'm a light sleeper and being continually disturbed in the night means I drag my sleep deprived body around the next day like a zombie. You can get a mouthpiece called a 'snore wizard'. Its worn like a gumshield on the lower teeth,and pushes the lower jaw out slightly to help keep airway unblocked. It was the only thing that helped,but it does take him a bit of getting used to. DP got his off a shopping channel,but I'm sure you could find one on amazon.

Ohh notone I will have to see if I cam get one thank you!!!

normally I can deal with it but dd has been really bad with teething this week so has been up ALL night a lot which means so am I.

I do try and wake him up to deal with dd but unfortunately he is s very heavy sleeper and I find it almost impossible for to wake him plus if he does wake up he faffs about under the guise of "waking up" so she ends up screaming worse and wakes up fully and then takes hours to get back off so it's just easier for me to do it. and yes I know I should just boot his ass out of bed to do it but sometimes it's about picking battles