to be tired of being chased up to pay for hen do?

[AureliaAubrey]

When I paid within days

This is the 4th email about it and theres always an apology for the people that have paid but is it really that hard to work out who and who has not paid.

YABU.

Just ignore it. Organising these things is a thankless task anyway, just feel sorry for the poor sod sending the emails.

Perhaps 95% of the attendees haven't paid and they can't be arsed to type out all those names when they have a convenient distribution list.

What soup dragon said.

Stop fretting. Your wasting your emotional energy.

YABU it's not hard that to ignore, just be thankful you're not the poor sod that has to chase people for money.

Just ignore. It really doesn't matter.

If there is a caveat in the email apologising and exempting those who have already coughed up then you are really coming across as a bit precious.

Organising a hen/stag bash is like herding cats sometimes and at least half those invited always need chasing for payment which is a bit rubbish when the organiser is quite possibly down a few hundred quid already and expecting tailored emails is a bit much!

Maybe you could offer her your secretarial services on this matter.

Why don't you reply to all recipients

'Done. I paid on the xx/yy ref blahblah. Looking forward to it.'

Might help get some money out of the laggards.

Unless the email jumps through your screen and batters you round the head with a chicken leg, YABU.

It's not a big deal.

Surely the organiser is trying to not single people out, so sending a group email is more diplomatic.
I like Howds's response.

Yabu. Organising a hen do is a nightmare. The person has obviously tried to be organised by setting up a distribution list and this makes ger life easier. She is also probably hoping the caveat makes other people realise that others have paid. Its an email, ignore it.

Aurelia

Maybe you should take over organising the Hen Do if it's that easy??

If you're the one organising it then YANBU. If all you have to put it with are pesky emails then yabu. Get over it.

YABU

Yabu. Seriously, if this is the only thing you have to worry/complain about you need to count yourself lucky!

I am forever bemused by the perfection of other people's lives, and the utterly trivial inconveniences that can be blown out of all proportion.

Four emails. Good lord. If I was highly strung enough to be affected by four emails (that included apologies for sending them to me as I had paid) I may be taking a long hard look at myself.

Aurelia, take a chill pill. And be utterly thankful that you are in the enviable position of having fuck all to worry about. (I say this advisedly, as it is possible that you are so overwhelmed by the chaos of your life that these emails have pushed you over the edge, but I'm not really getting that from your condescending tone)

Have you ever organised a hen night for a group of women you don't know?

It's a major pain in the arse, YABU to think that the organiser should check her list each time she sends a hen night email and then make sure that only the appropriate people get it for the sake of you saving seconds to read a simple few sentences.

If you really have to feel annoyed with anyone, be annoyed with the people that are making the organiser chase them for money.

YABU. What the others said.
It's annoying chasing people for money, and round robins are the best way to do it. Dicking around with adding and removing people from mailing lists would be an extra annoyance.

respond 'why not just ask the people that haven't paid, rather than keep including those that have - which is pointless unless you are going to name and shame.'

YABU. Dont' sweat the small stuff.

Sorry about the aberrant apostrophe.

Yabu. Currently organising a hen do and having stress dreams about it.