AIBU? Dc won't go to bed/won't get up!!

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Aibu? Please tell me!?

I have 6 dc. 4 younger dc are still at home. Dd13, ds 10, ds6 & dd 14 months.

I let them stay up abit later in the holidays but this Easter, its been ridiculous. They won't go to bed so can't get up.

I'm into my 3rd week & final week of the holidays. I've really had enough as i end up dealing with dc for 18 hours a day, between the oolder ones staying up late & the baby getting up at 5/6 am.

Are others people's dc like this?
Do I need to relax about bed times or be stricter?

Aibu for expecting then to go to bed about 9.30/10 pm in the holidays?

I have five dcs aged 12, 8, 7, 5 & 10 weeks. The three middle ones all went to bed by 8pm during the holidays (occasionally 9pm if we were doing something as a family). Now they are back to school it's 7-7:30pm bedtimes for them.
Oldest is a law unto herself! During the holidays she doesn't seem to have a set bedtime and just ambles up when we've had enough of her she feels like it. Usually about 10/10:30pm. Term time isn't much better. She gets up at 6am to catch the bus at 7am, goes straight from school to dance studios where she is until 9:15pm most nights and she usually comes home and goes straight to bed by 10pm.
However none of them seem to settle straight away. They read / listen to audio books, come down for a drink/the loo/ to tell me some urgent thing like they drew a frog at school today. Often I am in bed before the oldest!
If it works for you and they aren't tired / grumpy during the day then I wouldn't see it as a problem. If you want the evenings to yourself could you ask them to go to there rooms at a certain time, even if they don't go to bed?

Your so easy going about your 12 year old!They have very strict bedtimes during term as we have to be up so early. So that's why I try to rrlaxrelax abit in the holidays.

They are all so tired & grumpy due to not getting enough sleep!

The boys won't stay in their room, I try thst but they end up downstairs every 2 minutes.

I can't go to bed before them as when I used to do that when the baby was feeding at night, they would get up & eat all the snacks, watch TV & eventually fall asleep in the living room.

I find it infuriating but maybe aibu?

I'm not really, it's just the way things pan out with her. She has to be up for school and like I say, she dances til late most days. I don't actually see that much of her so sometimes it's nice to have half an hour or so in the evening when the others are in bed.

So long as she is on top of her schoolwork and her homework is done and she isn't falling asleep in class I don't see the point insisting she goes to bed at a certain time. She's pretty good at knowing when she's tired.

If I were you I wouldn't have any snacks available in the house and would leave them to it.

I have 3 dc, 14yo, 11yo and 7yo.
7yo's bedtime is about 8-8:30 school time. Holiday I'm slightly relaxed on that, so I'll call them to go up around 8:00, but if they're doing somethign quiet and good I might leave it a little later. I'd still aim to have him in bed by 9 and asleep by 9:30 though.

11yo's bedtime is officially lights out 8:45. She has 101 reasons term or holidays why her light is still on and reading at whatever time we've caught her. Term time she loses time off tomorrow's bedtime, holiday I tend to not worry really. She doesn't need sleep as much as dd1, her older sister.

Dd1's bedtime is officially she is meant to be in her room by 9:00 unless till doing homework (or piano practice, or something similar) lights out is her own affair, although I'll comment if her light's still on at 10:30 during term time. As long as she gets up for school I don't worry.
She had a very tiring term and first week of the holidays, and had a couple of days where she emerged at about 4:00pm. But she's been fine going back to school this week, so I don't worry too much.

In your situation I'd give them a time they have to be quiet and in their rooms (not to disturb the baby is a good excuse) but not worry too much about the actual time they sleep.

You need to be stricter IMO. If your DC won't go to bed at an even vaguely sensible time, then it's your responsibility to make them through whatever means necessary.

Yep, a bit of sleep training is needed. Calm and firm.

Also, take the remote up with you - or my TV has a parental control so I set it to switch off at 8pm or whatever unless a code is entered. And don't buy snacks or hide them in your room

Bedtimes are habit mostly, so wouldn't be forever.

I'd let 13 year old stay up a bit later (9.00?) but 10 year old and 6 year old would be in at 7 and 8 latest.