to call a day on presents for siblings now that we're all over 40?

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Sick of doing presents (birthday and christmas) for siblings year in year out. There are 3 of us, all over 40. one sibling wants to stop, the other is adamant they don't. i would very much like to call it a day.

We also naturally stopped in our late 20s - maybe a token bottle of wine/chocolates if we are visiting. And we stop childrens' presents at 18. Madness to continue.

I find it odd that adults want presents - if you can afford something, buy exactly what you want for yourself, if you can't afford something - why would you struggle to buy a gift for someone else .

Just stop - if one of the siblings has a strop just let him/her get on with it.

I like giving birthday and Xmas presents to siblings because they all seem to enjoy receiving them so much. I'm about to face a bit of a crisis though because this is going to be the year that the over-18s go onto the same footing as everyone else - and they're likely to get birthday cards only because not one of them has ever even acknowledged receiving presents let alone saying thanks. For the past few years, it's been a bit like posting into the void.

I'm not at all sure how it will go down.

Sorry - that would be the over-18 nieces and nephews.

My mum suggested a £10 limit for Christmas this year (for adults, not kids). I think this is the way forward because we still get to exchange presents but won't bankrupt ourselves to do it. I also think we will be forced to put some thought into what we buy rather than just throwing money at it!

I know you want to stop completely, but maybe this would be a good compromise.

With 6 sisters, 6 BIL,s, 14 nephews and nieces, (youngest now in the 30's), and 13 great nephews/nieces we gave up buying presents a very long time ago.

We all just buy for our own little? families and we all buy for mum, sometimes individually or as a joint present for something special

We do Christmas presents but not birthday presents.

DB and I don't buy each other birthday or Christmas presents. Never have done. It isn't miserable just practical

i've come up with a solution.
i'm going to tell the my two siblings to make donations to a charity on my behalf for my future birthday and xmas presents.
i'll ask them if they would like me to do the same for their gifts. therefore, at least charities can benefit and presents will still technically be given to the sibling who needs to get them.

once the kids in the family reached 21 we stopped buying presents (apart from DPs daughters who now just ask for money). I only buy for my mum and my DP

Or you could say that you want them to set up an Amazon wish list beforehand. If there's nothing on the list then a goat gets it.

We stopped gifts once we all started having kids.

Although my youngest sibling has no kids yet but has 9 nieces and nephews so I still bung him a bottle of something Xmas / Birthday's!