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About neighbours loud music?

34 replies

Namechangergamechanger · 14/04/2015 12:43

I live in a semi-detached new build house, the walls are paper thin. A new neighbour moved in next door about 6 weeks ago. All been fairly quiet up til now, she hardly seems to be there actually. But on Saturday night she clearly was there, as loud music started up at about 08:00pm, it then got louder at 8:30pm when a few of her mates turned up. I had to have my TV on a pretty high volume so I could hear it without a background of her R&B music. At 10pm a taxi turned up and they all piled in, so it was silent from then on.
AIBU to think her behaviour was U - a warning might have been nice?
Or should I live and let live if this happens again, am I party pooper?
How often/how loud is too much?
I've had loud music-loving neighbours before who were a nightmare, even after formal complaints, I don't want to end up in that scenario again!

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TheMoa · 14/04/2015 12:46

Honestly, a couple of hours on a Saturday, seems fine.

The fact that you have paper thin walls is unfortunate, but I wouldn't go complaining on the basis of 2 hours of not very late music on a weekend.

Smoorikins · 14/04/2015 12:48

Two hours of music in six weeks, finishing by 10pm on a Saturday evening? Not a big deal imo.

Staywithme · 14/04/2015 12:51

It sounds like she was having a bit of a get together, pos housewarming, before heading out. I wouldn't stress too much about it unless it becomes a regular thing. Try to at, at least, get on nodding terms with her and make her feel welcome. People are more likely to not want to annoy those that are nice to them, unless you have arseholes living next door speaking from bitter experience

LaurieFairyCake · 14/04/2015 12:53

So you had to turn your tv up for a couple of hours Confused

Is this a reverse thread?

And if so, no, she shouldn't be bothered by it.

NorahDentressangle · 14/04/2015 12:54

Bearable. Get some earphones.

pocketsaviour · 14/04/2015 12:55

You could give her an example of how thin the walls are by simulating loud sex noises in your bedroom one night when you are sure she/they have retired for the evening Grin

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Namechangergamechanger · 14/04/2015 13:02

Def not a reverse thread.
We haven't seen each other yet to say hello or anything, will definitely do so.

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MissMuesli · 14/04/2015 13:04

I would let it go. Good neighbours are brilliant and to be honest 2 hours of music on a Saturday and finished by 10 pm is dealt reasonable. If every night I can see why you'd be unhappy but at the moment I'd say you are being unreasonable. Do you have children?

I have thin walls, an old lady one side and a family on the otherside. Sometimes it gets loud but I consider it a fair swap. Can sometimes hear the old ladies dog and her tv as she doesn't hear well. From the other neighbours I can sometimes here arguments (teenagers in the house) and their baby crying. Then they probably hear my 4 year old being loud occasionally. Everyone is pretty considerate and it does all balance out in the end!

ScotsWhaHae · 14/04/2015 13:04

Oh for goodness sake. Yabu.

ScotsWhaHae · 14/04/2015 13:06

A warning that she wanted to listen to some music and get ready with her friends before heading out? Sheesh.

Should she warn it if she plans on farting in your general direction?

Number3cometome · 14/04/2015 13:42

What? it's a Saturday night? She wasn't partying in her house until 12, it was 10pm.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 14/04/2015 14:52

It wasn't going on into the early hours.

It might just be a one off.

Millionprammiles · 14/04/2015 15:12

Unless it's waking up young children 10pm probably isn't worth complaining about and risking bad feeling with the neighbours. (Our neighbours used to start at 11pm....).

That doesn't mean its necessarily reasonable or considerate to force someone else to listen to your loud music though. Our Council's noise team operate from 8pm. The guidance they provide includes noise being too loud if you have to turn up the volume of your own tv/radio.

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Namechangergamechanger · 14/04/2015 23:05

I do have a child. He is 10, so prob does make some noise that can be heard through the wall. Id rather hear a baby or child than music though. He was at his dads on sat night so wasn't disturbed luckily.

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Pipbin · 14/04/2015 23:08

If it was bad enough to warrant saying something then you should have done so at the time.
With others. It was loud but it did stop soon enough. If it was late, very very loud or this was happening every night then mention it but otherwise it's not worth it.

maddening · 14/04/2015 23:17

A one off finishing at 10 on a Saturday is to be expected, if it becomes regular and later times then you would have cause - too early to say at this stage.

Preciousbane · 14/04/2015 23:50

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Yambabe · 14/04/2015 23:55

"I'd rather hear a baby or a child than some music though"

Well good for you. I would much prefer to hear music than someone else's children.

Qwebec · 15/04/2015 00:35

sound proof your common wall. ask her maybe she will accept to pay half the bill.

musicalendorphins2 · 15/04/2015 06:13

I wouldn't complain, it didn't go on for very late.

MyLegIsHaunted · 15/04/2015 07:16

I wish our old neighbors music went off at 10pm! That's usually when theirs started up.
One night it went through til 8am the next day, and that was with 3 visits from the police Shock

A one off til 10pm is fine, I wouldn't say anything. You have my sympathy though, can not stand loud music!!

HelenF350 · 15/04/2015 07:18

YABU I'm afraid.

UncleT · 15/04/2015 09:08

YABVU. As for your comment about child noise being better than music - oh dear.... Even if you think so yourself, why on earth would you assume that for everyone?

DamnBamboo · 15/04/2015 09:11

OP YADNBU.
Have a word with yourself honestly.
Why shouldn't she be able to have fun in HER house on a Saturday night by listening to some music and having some friends over - ONCE IN SIX WHOLE WEEKS.

The blood cheek of her Hmm

DamnBamboo · 15/04/2015 09:12

That should have been a YADBU