To be feeling down about turning 40

[BabyBump2B]

I turn 40 later this month & I'm really feeling sorry for myself. I'm overweight, a single mum (the only one in my social group and a lot of my friends their partners make a lot of money so there's loads of holidays, nice things, etc), my last bf turned out to be an EA arse, I tried to start my own business and its failed, I'm out of work, totally broke, terrible with money, depressed, lonely, desperately want another child but feel like this is how my life is going to be forever now.

I have lovely friends who I do know love me but I just feel empty & neglected and now I also feel old. This is in no way, shape or form the life I thought I would have at 40 and I don't know what to do.

Okay, so what can you change?

You can get fit and healthy, you could volunteer to improve your job opportunities, you can be thankful you have dc and friends

Do not compare yourself to other people, someone else will always appear to have more, be happier etc

You can look at 40 as a new start and focus on how you want your life to be and start making a plan as to how you are going to make it happen

You will never be as young as you are today.

What I mean is embrace today. Get photos. In twenty years you will think how great you now look.

Hi Babybump, I can totally relate to this feeling as I recently reached a milestone too and was feeling frumpy. Sort out your diet and exercise first and then everything else comes after- confidence, self esteem, positivity, which could then lead to meeting someone, then to having another child etc.
You won't have to wait until you've teached your target for it to effect you either, once you've started looking after yourself you'll start to like yourself again as you're making some positive changes. Love yourself first

affect!

Mrs ted

Lovely post

OK, I know this might sound a bit airy fairy but bear with me. Would you try making a wishlist to the universe- a board with pictures to inspire you on goals you wish to achieve. A fit healthy body, being able to run for 5 mins, getting a job, the car you want. And maybe the act of envisaging what you want may spur you on? Getting fit and eating well will definitely help your self esteem..

I agree with previous poster and this could be a whole new beginning for you if you frame it that way.

Ar the risk of sounding airy fairy too, have you tried a Paul McKenna? Don't know if I'm allowed to endorse it on here so please delete this if its against the rules HQ!
The the change your life in 7 days book was brilliant for me, totally helped me and changed my whole outlook. Try looking into something similar as a new start maybe?
And a diet and exercise regime could really give you something to focus on, make you feel great and get you healthy in the meantime!