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AIBU to wish that people who start threads should update them with the conclsion?

51 replies

Straycatblue · 13/04/2015 19:07

I am a new poster and after suffering insomnia the past few nights have stayed up reading lots of old threads.
There are so many that have been started about a particular dilemma and they get lots of good advice given and then they dont come back and say what the outcome was in the end. Its frustrating :D (Lighthearted)

OP posts:
Lweji · 13/04/2015 21:55

YABU, sorry.

Although some are worrying and it would be lovely to know if the OP is doing well.

Tutteredboast · 13/04/2015 22:01

I still wake up in the middle of the night wondering about the bathroom pull cord light sound from a house adjoining the OP.
As others have said loads are made up. I still fall for loads of them (ridiculous American wedding one) tho not as many as I used to.

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 13/04/2015 22:07

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BackOnPlanetEarth · 13/04/2015 22:17

It's so frustrating when OPs don't update unless they are trolls ...which is most of them I think Confused

EstRusMum · 13/04/2015 22:21

She killed MIL, went NC with family and LTB "D"P. And her DS1 was wearing pink princess dresses or My Little Pony winged tshirts until he was 15. Her DD had sex with her BF at 45. And it was all abuse.
There. Perfect ending to any thread.

P.s. Butler indeed did it. Grin

pourmeanotherglass · 13/04/2015 22:21

hmm - its over 3 hours since the OP started this thread, and she hasn't been back yet!

Lweji · 13/04/2015 22:22

All very well, but did she get married in the end? And did she still have bridesmaids?
These are the important questions.

reni1 · 13/04/2015 22:25

Never mind threads, I often think at the end of a movie or novel I'd like an update about the next steps.

EvoraEvora · 13/04/2015 22:27

I have to admit I abandoned a thread I had started once (under a different name) because it descended into insanity, and was just going on and on with no involvement from me! I bet this is the case with a lot if vanishing OPs, rather than trolling!

scaevola · 13/04/2015 22:31

Did the nephew have green hair at the wedding?

Original poster
Straycatblue · 13/04/2015 22:32

pourmeanotherglass
Ive been back and read the replies but there's nothing for me to update as my post was self contained :)
I will say, it hadnt actually occurred to me that some of the threads were made up until it was mentioned in this one.

SummerHouse thank you for the blueberries tip.

OP posts:
Cooroo · 13/04/2015 22:37

Well I submitted details of income and daughter's student loan practically doubled! Thanks to all for wise advice. (Ok it was a pretty dull thread as they go)

Qwebec · 13/04/2015 23:45

I guess I'm naive, but I don't see why people write fake threads or reverse. What's the point?

ChasedByBees · 14/04/2015 00:03

I think if people are posting about real situations, they may also be worried about being recognised due to details of a disagreement with specific people. Once they have the advice and they decide themselves on a plan of action, the quicker a thread drops into obscurity the better.

Also people may decide on a course of action which isn't what the majority of Mumsnetters want - then they have to justify and defend when it's their life and their choice and they don't owe an explanation.

But yes, it's really annoying and I want to know the endings.

daisychain01 · 14/04/2015 05:00

Sometimes a poster starts a new thread to update and call it something like Wedding Fiasco The Outcome.

So it gets orphaned from the original thread.

TelephoneIgnoringMachine · 14/04/2015 05:14

SummerHouse - re the blueberries, are you supposed to eat them in the evening or doesn't it matter? I can't find anything about this (but do like blueberries) Grin

JessieMcJessie · 14/04/2015 05:27

A poster called daisy, I think she had numbers in her name

Daisychain01 who just posted above?

I once got a load of good advice on a thread, lots of people asked me to come back and update about my decision. So I did and not one bugger replied.

The one I am currently waiting for is MrsRuffallo and the neighbour who kept ringing her bell.

Kittymum03 · 14/04/2015 05:43

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SummerHouse · 14/04/2015 06:47

Re blueberries. Yes you eat a punnet before bed and I saw it on a documentary about people that couldn't sleep. A woman tried it an it worked for her. Worth a try?

TelephoneIgnoringMachine · 14/04/2015 17:57

I certainly will. I wonder if frozen blueberries would work? Fresh ones are £££

LaLyra · 14/04/2015 18:37

Sometimes people can't really update a thread.

Like if they have a situation and they do take the advice and update the thread, but then after they can't because the next thing that happened was too identifiable.

So it could still be going on with police involvement and be quite ugly, but they just can't say.

Lweji · 14/04/2015 18:46

Or people have filled up the thread asking for updates. Grin

ItsAllKickingOffPru · 14/04/2015 19:03

YABU. No one owes anyone an ending or a resolution.

2rebecca · 14/04/2015 19:10

I hate people who bump up threads looking for updates. OK for one poster to do it to remind the OP but when others join n you think there must be an update because there are all these comments and it's just people who can't leave their keyboard alone.
Agree that the most dramatic ones where people want to know what happens next are usually fiction. I don't understand why people do that though but suppose it's just another form of attention seeking by people with no job hobbies or young kids to occupy them.