to wish I could cope on my own?

[SantanaLopez]

DD1 has just turned two and our twins are nearly six months old.

My MIL comes every day and she's an absolute godsend. I couldn't do it without her... but sometimes I really wish I could. Is that weird?

Blimey, everyone's allowed to feel overwhelmed at times aren't they?!

Thanks parallax

I do think confidence is really helpful though, DH went away for a week on a residential work thing when the twins were 3 months and DS1 just shy of 2 and I was crapping myself about it but we got through it a little at a time and having done that it all seemed much easier day to day.

I found playgroups, twin club and a couple of select friends houses to be "safe" places where I could practice going somewhere and if if all went wrong we would laugh about it and someone would have the paraphernalia I'd forgotten so maybe you could try one of those?

Tomorrow I'm going to take them all on a walk myself.

DS is awake and he likes that idea very much, he's lying laughing at me!

Night MN :)

You'd have no choice if she didn't come and would just have to get on with it. Given one is at nursery there's only two at home.

If you want to rely less on your MIL you could lead cut it down to every other day and then further from there. She likely could use the break.

I am sure you could cope on your own.
I think you probably need to give it a go , you sound a little dependant on your MIL - whatever age they are at it is challenging .... When people say it gets easier it really doesn't for a long time , the stresses are just different when they are school age.
So for your own benefit I would start to try to stand on your 2 feet otherwise at some point I'm sorry to say you will be in for a shock when reality hits hard and you HAVE to cope on your own.

I'm impressed you have managed to post a thread.

I think that it is wonderful that your MIL comes and help you out. You can't have too many people that love your DCs in their lives.

You don't have to prove anything to anyone. Raising kids isn't a competition. If I did it all again I would have even more help. Why
Not?

Everything changes so quickly with little kids, before you know it things will get easier. Having three kids so close in age is adorable even if it's hard work. I bet lots of people make a fuss of them when you are out.