Or am I being a wuss about friendship/Facebook issue?

[CocktailQueen]

I posted a few weeks ago about an incident that happened at ds's football. Basically the coach's DS behaved really badly - tantruming, stropping, fouling, very competitive playing, and constantly arguing with the ref - dh. The coach and his wife didn't see a problem with it. The boys are 7/8.

Anyway, despite her saying that she didn't want it to come between us, she has ignored me since. Parked her car in different place to avoid me, stood in different place in playground to avoid me... She has unfriended me on facebook - I know this shouldn't matter, Ffs!

But I'm nervous of going back to school after the hols and seeing her in the playground. She's very a bit scary and I can imagine her talking about me to the other mums. Can imagine she would make a v bad enemy.

Am I being a complete wuss about this? Don't want to spend every school run worrying about it, but feel all shaky and anxious and sick. Please give me a virtual slap, tell me to woman up, or tell me how best to deal with it.

She wasn't a good friend but I see her a lot at school and football and am scared this will affect how the other parents see me - I do realise how pathetic this sounds, by the way.

Thanks for reading...

Well you haven't explained what happened? You say you posted about it before but we don't know what you did or said to offend this woman? So it's hard to advise.

She has explained. Her DH was the ref and obviously penalised the woman's son. Now the woman is blanking her like she's done something wrong. Pathetic behaviour.

If this woman is truly being pathetic then you'd imagine the other parents will acknowledge this and probably feel the same about her.

Don't worry about it. Put a brave face on and get on with life, let her be pathetic

As i see it there must be 100 moms in the playground that u dont know and effectively ignore - pretend shes one of those..... she`ll soon disappear

But we stand in the same group of mums... Usually.

Yes, her DS behaved v badly, coach didn't penalise him, dh said he wouldn't ref again, coach was snippy with dh, and genuinely didn't see a problem w his DS's behaviour. We're supposed to stick to the Respect code of conduct. It was shocking and left bad taste in my mouth.

Thanks, GERTI :) yes, I guess I should. Not looking forward to it, thou! And I can imagine she's losing no sleep over it all - just me. Gah.

i feel your pain. Have had similar fall out in my community. The mother ignores me when she meets me , sticks her nose up in the air if meets me driving. I go out of my way to avoid where she might be now as it made me so upset. It changed my whole friendship dynamic . A year down the line I have moved on and don't worry asuch about it. It was a very similar thing to yours that happened except we had been friends. I saw her true colours though with bad language and I realise I'm better off keeping well clear. Just keep your head up and nod at her if you see her. It's a horrid situation so good luck

The joys of kids' football. I wouldn't worry about it. The other parents will have seen what happened and will have made their own minds up about the situation.

I would just carry on as normal and hold your head high. Don't avoid her, you'll get what vibe she has when you're in the playground. Once you see her and get that over with you'll start to not worry too much.