This is not OK, right? (disappearing DP)

[Penguinotterfoxbadger]

Ok, so I last saw DP around 1pm this afternoon. He was going to meet a friend and her boyfriend for lunch. I was going to work. I've tried his mobile a couple of times the evening and it's gone straight to answerphone. Assume it's out of battery.

I've just got back home from work and he is not here.. No message. I've left a voice mail, what's app, Gmail message. Nothing.

I've just logged on to his Facebook account (wouldn't usually do this but I don't have the friend's phone number) and messaged his friend (Fb & text) asking (nicely!) if he is with her. No reply as of yet.

I am not worried about his relationship with the friend, or his fidelity generally, and I am not going to LTB over this... He is presumably either seriously hurt (Jesus I hope not) or pissed in a pub with a dead phone.

But I'm within my rights to bloomin pissed off, right? Or am I over reacting?

(a bit of background... We've lived together for around 4 years, are both fine with the other going out apart, but doing so without mentioning it first is very much out of character)

I may revisit my choice of amused over angry in the morning

Very good way of putting it

Glad he's ok.

I'm glad he's back.

Glad he is okay OP

bless, pint of water and nurofen!

I think YABU. I wouldn't expect DP to be in touch if out. He's his own person.

Most important thing is he is ok(ish). It happens, that one drink that tips you from being nicely merry to pissed as a fart!

I agree with chrome.

He went out with mates, you knew he had gone out with mates, you knew what he was like with phone probably flat and 11:30 - 1:00 am isn't that late.

He may have been thoughtless but wtf standing there arms crossed ready to berate him. Why didn't you hold a rolling pin or frying pan at the same time?

have you started vacuuming yet, op?

Hehe, yes OP definitely time for a spring clean don't you think? Doesn't housework go faster when you put some nice loud singalong music on too?

(my deepest sympathies- went through this often with my ex)

This is my life OP!

I find sending the cats up to say hi at 7am, then hoovering and putting on loud music makes me feel a whole lot better!

Mine came in pished at 5am instead of 2am when he finished bar work 'because there were no earlier taxis'. Funny that he just happened to fall on some booze and accidentally swallow it all in the meantime.

I'm about to get out the drill - I'm sure some holes need drilling somewhere in the house...

Magoria and chrome are being ridiculous.
If your partner goes out for LUNCH and doesn't contact for 12 hours or come home when they had no plans to go anywhere else and this is out of character then obviously you worry! That's not unreasonable. That's normal. I'd expect my partner to care where I was.
Not everyone regularly goes out and gets plastered and acts like a prick.

He doesn't go out for hours getting pissed regularly though, does he? Blimey. He's home safe and well and will feel like shit for the whole day, I would say that's punishment enough.