to not pay for my son to go swimmng

[ghostspirit]

where i live under 16s can swim for free in any pool in the borough. but my son wants to go swimming outside of the borough so it would cost money. about 4.50. i can afford it but i think why should i pay when he can swim for free....am i just being a cow :/

It seems silly to me to pay the money when you don't have to. Could he pay it himself?

why does he want to go swimming out the borough? is it a one off or regular thing?

Different borough different rules.

Yabu

How old is he? He either pays himself, or you say no, surely?

Is the other pool more fun? If so, let him.

thats not what its about scoop its about paying when i dont need to. if he stays in borough

There you go

Stay in the Borough then

manchester yes i can say no. was not sure if i was being a cow.

Why does he want to go to a different pool?

depends why he is going to another borough really. if it's just for a change then yanbu, if it's because he is going with friends and they all live in the other borough then yabu

If he has any discretionary money of his own could he pay for it himself?

With my DC i'd probably make a contribution but not pay the full amount to test if they really wanted the, in my normal circumstance, more expensive thing than offered.

If its a one-off because there's a slide or something, or because he and his mates are going on a trip, then what's the harm?

Or is the out of borough pool closer?

Why does he want to go outside the borough?
Is it because he wants to swim with friends who live there? Or is it a fun/leisure pool which offers something more?

Depends on the reason really.

You are leaving out facts we would need to know in order to judge your reasonableness or otherwise.

no idea why he wants to go to a different pool. his friends are not going and there are 3 or 4 pools he can choose that are free

brandy what did you want to know

have you asked him?

if his friends aren't going then it is probably about a girl

assuming he gets pocket money make him pay

He needs to be able to provide a reason for wanting this pool! Not knowing your son, now can he judge? Maybe he fancies a girl who goes to the other pool. Maybe some local kids bully him at the free pools . Maybe one has a great diving board. You need to somehow get him to communicate with you more to see if it is at all worth the money .

How can we judge, not he

depends on the reason. is the pool any good? making him use a dirty or badly maintained pool when he doesn't have to would be U.

If it's fine then Yanbu.

If it's a one off and he just fancies a change yabu

And also depends on what this other pool offered. does he actually want to swim properly and your local pool is full of swimming lessons all the time and the leisure pool is not really for actual swimming?

or is your regular pool just a boring g pool and he wants turn on some slides and fun stuff.

Both fair enough reasons to want try somewhere new tbh