To let 5 month old DD cry?

[Fedupofplaystation]

I'm shattered due to DD2 waking hourly for her dummy. Tried dummy tots or leaving loads of dummies in the cot, but she's too little to put it back in herself.
She sleeps in a bed nest attached to my bed to minimise the disruption to my sleep, but it really is taking it's toll. She's still feeding twice a night, which I'm not looking to stop - I'm hoping she'll do that in her own time, but feel I need to take some positive action over the dummy.
So plan is: Do bath, bottle, snuggles and bed as normal but to put her down without the dummy. The trouble is that she will cry and I know that no controlled crying is advised before 6 months old. I do intend to stay with her and rub/pat her back so she knows I'm still close.
Does that sound reasonable, or am I going to scar her for life?

Babies usually learn to suck their thumbs in the womb as practice for feeding. To a natural and soothing thing for them. Many people don't want them sucking their thumbs or using mum for comfort so give a dummy. We tried dd with one but she hated them. She's sucked her thumb since birth (and could be seen doing it on the 20wk scan too).

Aaaw OP don't feel bad - are you sure she needs a feed at 3/4am? She might just be a bit restless then if she wakes then. I really wouldn't feed her unless she really does the hungry cry and def don't wake her up. DD (5mnth) doesn't feed in the night at all although DS1 and 2 both had an 11pm dream feed for a bit longer. DD is also restless at 4ish but when u tuck her in with me she goes back off til 7/8 am. I gave DD the dummy because she was sucking on me all night for the first couple on months and she would only nap sucking on me too. I couldn't function to look after DS1 and 2 as I had never needed to co sleep with either of them so had to give the dummy which has been a life saver as she goes to sleep v quickly with it...DS2 could just put himself straight to sleep without any help and DS1 had a dummy til he ditched it for bunny at 13mnths but I can't remember having to give him the dummy all thru the night. Or maybe it's just a blur. I would try to drop the 3am feed - offer a bit of cooked boiled water in a bottle at first instead but it looks like dummy will be needed for a bit longer. Big hugs x

*cooled!!

If baby is breast fed then any sort of water in a bottle is ill advised.

Dd went quickly to bed at 6.45pm. I've been in to her twice at 7.45pm and 8.45pm to reinsert the bloody dummy.
Really don't know what to do for the best.
happyyellowcar when she was younger she'd sleep for 10 hours without a feed, but since she hit the 4 month sleep regression she won't resettle at that time until she's had a bottle.
Has anyone else been through this? How did you solve it? Do I just need to wait it out?

I had this with DD. I found by about 6 or 7 months she could put it back in herself , once I'd sewn a few onto the paws of a cuddly bunny toy so she could locate it easily. She never really woke again at night after that, but at 2.4 she is still very keen on dummy bunny for sleep and I oftrn wonder if I should have just taken it away early! I intend to take it away completely when she is 3, for now I don't mind her having it for sleep only.
I guess 7 months seems a long time, and I'm sure you could get her off it with cc/shush pat and going through it. I guess you have to weigh it up.
good luck

Fed up, how 'big' is dd? Is she a skinny mini or on the sturdier size?
How is she taking to the porridge? Could this be given at tea time, just before starting bed time routine. Then a good feed at bedtime. Then a dream feed ( I am a HUGE fan of dream feeds) change her nappy BEFORE the dream feed to ensure she is awake enough to have a decent feed. If she has a good dream feed she should be able to go through until the morning, but if she is s hungry baby this may not happen until she is fully weaned.
In my house at the moment I would add a light blanket over a sleeping bag ( obv depending on the temp of your house, worth checking temp as don't want baby to overheat). I would also have a full bumper on cot to keep out the drafts. When you get her out of the cot, feel the fact of her neck, it should feel nice and toasty but not sweaty.
Is she very wriggly? Sometimes wriggly babies hate sleeping bags and sleep better with just blankets.
You could try raising the head end of the bed slightly with a book under the legs, it's a bit like how we use a pillow, a slightly more natural position to sleep in.

Hi Fedup - my DS is 4.5 months so just a bit younger than yours - I don't know if this helps but I always I'm always interested in what other people with babies the same age are doing!

DS gets a BF at about 5ish, then a full 8oz bottle at 6.30ish, down for bed by 7ish. He is in a cot in his own room, goes to bed in a merino-lined sleeping bag (temp in his room in the evening is about 19/20 degrees) with dummy, muslin & white noise.

I change his nappy at 10pm (dark room, minimum talk etc), adding in a nappy booster terry cloth (he is a champion wee-er and if I don't do this he leaks right through) and dreamfeed him. This seems to take him regularly to 4 - 4.30am, I change him again as the nappy is sodden & feed him. Then he wakes at 6.45 - 7amish.

He was definitely more unsettled round the 4 month mark, we had about 2 weeks of him waking several times a night. Bloody shattering. I'd just shush, put dummy back in and leave him to re-settle. Occasionally I would feed him at 1am and then again at 4am, just to get some peace. He has found his thumb though and seems to prefer it.

I'm going to start him on solids this week, he's a big baby (about 20lbs) and it will be good to start lessening the liquids in favour of calories from solids, from a nappy leakage point of view at least!

Would you consider putting her in her own room? Both of our sleep improved a lot when I put DS in own room, before that I was hopping up every time he stirred and popping him on the boob. Now he has more of an opportunity to stir & then put himself back to sleep before I rush in & wake him up!

The worst that will happen to her is that she'll get a sore throat.